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I highly recommend this book "Love Must Be Tough" by Dr. James Dobson
It addresses the topic of respect — and how the lack of it can destroy relationships. The principles are really unique and effective and his strategy doesn’t require the willing cooperation of both partners. – just the offended partner. ( two :thumbs_up up!)
1. Love must be TOUGH (Anything that's easy to have it not valued)
2. Love must be CONFIDENT (Self respect, mutual respect)
3. Love must be FREE (Don't suffocate them, give them space)
4. You can not demand love in return (Just because you love them doesn't mean you can pressure them to love you)
5. Anyone you meet that you think "That's my future wife or future husband" you will most certainly never marry them.
6. Don't ever put someone in a "box." (confine them).
7. Every relationship that lasts one year or more will have at least one breakup. How you handle the crises will determine whether your relationship succeeds or fails. Remaining cool, calm and collected is the key.
8. Do not expect them to meet every one of your emotional needs.
9. Guard against selfishness. Don't let one person do all the giving.
10. Beware of blindness to obvious warning signs. Do not be blind to their faults.
11. Don't underestimate the power of your words. Do not marry the person you can live with, marry the person you can not live without.
12. Be careful to defend your "line of respect."
13. Do not equate human worth with flawless physical perfection because they will do the same to you. Don't compare yourself to others.
14. If genuine love has escaped you so far, never believe no one will love you. That's a self-defeating attitude. There is always someone out there who will love you, you just need to find them.
15. Check your assumptions before you move to marriage. Make sure you both understand and agree in your future plans (ie: Children, work or stay at home, etc.)
It addresses the topic of respect — and how the lack of it can destroy relationships. The principles are really unique and effective and his strategy doesn’t require the willing cooperation of both partners. – just the offended partner. ( two :thumbs_up up!)
1. Love must be TOUGH (Anything that's easy to have it not valued)
2. Love must be CONFIDENT (Self respect, mutual respect)
3. Love must be FREE (Don't suffocate them, give them space)
4. You can not demand love in return (Just because you love them doesn't mean you can pressure them to love you)
5. Anyone you meet that you think "That's my future wife or future husband" you will most certainly never marry them.
6. Don't ever put someone in a "box." (confine them).
7. Every relationship that lasts one year or more will have at least one breakup. How you handle the crises will determine whether your relationship succeeds or fails. Remaining cool, calm and collected is the key.
8. Do not expect them to meet every one of your emotional needs.
9. Guard against selfishness. Don't let one person do all the giving.
10. Beware of blindness to obvious warning signs. Do not be blind to their faults.
11. Don't underestimate the power of your words. Do not marry the person you can live with, marry the person you can not live without.
12. Be careful to defend your "line of respect."
13. Do not equate human worth with flawless physical perfection because they will do the same to you. Don't compare yourself to others.
14. If genuine love has escaped you so far, never believe no one will love you. That's a self-defeating attitude. There is always someone out there who will love you, you just need to find them.
15. Check your assumptions before you move to marriage. Make sure you both understand and agree in your future plans (ie: Children, work or stay at home, etc.)
Thank you for sharing and pointing it out 