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If yall could, please say a prayer for me. I just found out i was pregnant. Im not with the dad. He sometimes talks to me and he sometimes dont. He says he has alot of depression problems and thats why he dont always talk to me. From a previous relationship ive been in, i now have trust issues. He used to always lie to me so all of that may be true but i kind of question everyone now. I just dont know what to do and am asking for as many prayers as i can get. Not only for me but also for their dad. I guess if he is meant to be in my life, i would like for him to come around more and if not i would like to be able to move on. Thanks for everything. In Jesus name i pray. Amen
 
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Praying for you. I know it is so difficult. I do not know if he is meant to be in your life. I’m in similar situation. My boyfriend is not a Christian, and we have a daughter. He did not give me any reason to leave. I do not plan to leave my relationship. We are still together and we just started discussing marriage, but I’m struggling a lot, even after coming back to God. Every now and then we have a fight, then we do not talk. What happens usually is the sex and sinning again even though I'm praying every day about not doing this. It just happens all the time and I may eventually leave and risk breaking up. I'm still praying about what to do. At least you are not living with him like me, so you are not at risk.

You do not say. Does he believe in God? or tells you he is a Christian?
 
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Praying for you. I know it is so difficult. I do not know if he is meant to be in your life. I’m in similar situation. My boyfriend is not a Christian, and we have a daughter. He did not give me any reason to leave. I do not plan to leave my relationship. We are still together and we just started discussing marriage, but I’m struggling a lot, even after coming back to God. Every now and then we have a fight, then we do not talk. What happens usually is the sex and sinning again even though I'm praying every day about not doing this. It just happens all the time and I may eventually leave and risk breaking up. I'm still praying about what to do. At least you are not living with him like me, so you are not at risk.

You do not say. Does he believe in God? or tells you he is a Christian?
Weve never really talked about it. I havent known him that long. I know it sounds bad and it is but i want to be honest about it. I havent even told him yet.
 
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Praying for you, stay in touch with Jesus through prayer, He can help you more than all of us, and try to read some new testament scripture everyday.
 
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Weve never really talked about it. I havent known him that long. I know it sounds bad and it is but i want to be honest about it. I havent even told him yet.
Been there. The only thing that stopped it was getting pregnant for me sadly, and then finding my faith again. You need to know where is he spiritually. I know the word of God says we are not to be with unbelievers, but in my opinion. It is not always black and white. For people like you, it is all within gray area. If you do not like him or trust him, there is no reason he should be in your life.
 
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Hi Jessca,

Firstly a massive congratulations :) That's wonderful news. Inside of you is developing a wonderful wonderful lil baby that will absolutely adore you for the rest of your life.

As far as the dad's concerned, moving on sounds like an excellent idea. IMO it's not trust issues you have, it's self esteem. You girl are a gorgeous redeemed child of the creator God and my sweet sister. God loves and adores you, that's why He asked His precious only son to die a horrific death, just to rescue you from an unthinkable end. Having paid that price for you He wants only the best for you and that's why He sets out in Ephesians 5:22-33 how a husband has to be towards his wife. Read it and then ask yourself why you would compromise settling for 3rd best in this guy whose got you pregnant and can't decide whether he even wants to see you or not?

Girl, you want and deserve better, a guy who dotes on you, treating you like royalty, loving you almost like Christ loves His church. I'm fairly sure God has just such a guy waiting in the sidelines for you. Meanwhile just focus your attentions on those other two loves in your life. Love, worship and praise God, seeking to serve Him in whatever He has planned for you and of course bringing up your lovely sweet child to have an amazing, exciting childhood, learning about God in preparation for a decision he/she will make to be His disciple making mum really proud and pleased.

God bless you sis, richly xxx
 
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Hi Jessca,

Firstly a massive congratulations :) That's wonderful news. Inside of you is developing a wonderful wonderful lil baby that will absolutely adore you for the rest of your life.

As far as the dad's concerned, moving on sounds like an excellent idea. IMO it's not trust issues you have, it's self esteem. You girl are a gorgeous redeemed child of the creator God and my sweet sister. God loves and adores you, that's why He asked His precious only son to die a horrific death, just to rescue you from an unthinkable end. Having paid that price for you He wants only the best for you and that's why He sets out in Ephesians 5:22-33 how a husband has to be towards his wife. Read it and then ask yourself why you would compromise settling for 3rd best in this guy whose got you pregnant and can't decide whether he even wants to see you or not?

Girl, you want and deserve better, a guy who dotes on you, treating you like royalty, loving you almost like Christ loves His church. I'm fairly sure God has just such a guy waiting in the sidelines for you. Meanwhile just focus your attentions on those other two loves in your life. Love, worship and praise God, seeking to serve Him in whatever He has planned for you and of course bringing up your lovely sweet child to have an amazing, exciting childhood, learning about God in preparation for a decision he/she will make to be His disciple making mum really proud and pleased.

God bless you sis, richly xxx
Thank you for that. It makes me feel a little better. Ive been so emotional lately because im probably going to be considered high risk. I had 2 miscarriages in between my other 2 kids. Im afraid its going to happen again and i dont know how i would be able to handle it again. I also dont know how the dad is going to take it. Everything just happened so fast and yes i do have self esteem issues.
 
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Thank you for that. It makes me feel a little better. Ive been so emotional lately because im probably going to be considered high risk. I had 2 miscarriages in between my other 2 kids. Im afraid its going to happen again and i dont know how i would be able to handle it again. I also dont know how the dad is going to take it. Everything just happened so fast and yes i do have self esteem issues.
Glad you mentioned it. Others and I will be praying for you regarding this. It is normal to have these anxieties I guess just do not let them take over you. Pray always and fight sin.
 
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Glad you mentioned it. Others and I will be praying for you regarding this. It is normal to have these anxieties I guess just do not let them take over you. Pray always and fight sin.
Thank you everyone. My first appointment is in about a week and a half.
 
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Thank you for that. It makes me feel a little better. Ive been so emotional lately because im probably going to be considered high risk. I had 2 miscarriages in between my other 2 kids. Im afraid its going to happen again and i dont know how i would be able to handle it again. I also dont know how the dad is going to take it. Everything just happened so fast and yes i do have self esteem issues.
Awww Jessca,

Dearie me, you're going to need a lot of help and support over the next few months. Your bf maybe a nice lad but he has issues that are likely to drag both of you down, I'd encourage you to seriously think about moving on.

Please dont worry about miscarrying, that's something you have no control over other than eating really healthily and getting plenty of exercise. So don't worry about what if, rather plan for a full term pregnancy and the birth of a gorgeous baby boy or girl and let God deal with the rest. He loves you very dearly and wants to take care of us but sometimes we're just a bit too self sufficient or dependent upon other people and rebuff God's powerful loving care which God can take as a rebellion. This is what Jesus said about the city of Jerusalem-

“O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, the one who kills the prophets and stones those who are sent to her! How often I wanted to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, but you were not willing! Matthew 23:37 NKJV

God wants to love you, provide, guide and care for you. So please seek out the company of those who enhance that like believing family members and your church and put barriers and distance with any who impede God's working in your life. You can't go wrong in being more and more God dependent and He will look after and bless you.

Can I please urge you to follow Paul's advice in your future relationships? You agree you have self esteem issues, I'm sure Satan planted and is watering that and you need to overcome it. You are really very special, you didn't choose God, He chose you, and that's why. Take really good care of yourself with lots of exercise and healthy eating as well as prayer, lots of prayer, worship and praise, reading Bible and even more praising God. Please restrict your choice of future boyfriend to believers. If you're stuck with a non-believer you're blocking the boy that God's got lined up for you.

God bless you sweet sister and please keep us all posted so we can keep praying for you.

Love Andy xxx
 
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Awww Jessca,

Dearie me, you're going to need a lot of help and support over the next few months. Your bf maybe a nice lad but he has issues that are likely to drag both of you down, I'd encourage you to seriously think about moving on.

Please dont worry about miscarrying, that's something you have no control over other than eating really healthily and getting plenty of exercise. So don't worry about what if, rather plan for a full term pregnancy and the birth of a gorgeous baby boy or girl and let God deal with the rest. He loves you very dearly and wants to take care of us but sometimes we're just a bit too self sufficient or dependent upon other people and rebuff God's powerful loving care which God can take as a rebellion. This is what Jesus said about the city of Jerusalem-

“O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, the one who kills the prophets and stones those who are sent to her! How often I wanted to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, but you were not willing! Matthew 23:37 NKJV

God wants to love you, provide, guide and care for you. So please seek out the company of those who enhance that like believing family members and your church and put barriers and distance with any who impede God's working in your life. You can't go wrong in being more and more God dependent and He will look after and bless you.

Can I please urge you to follow Paul's advice in your future relationships? You agree you have self esteem issues, I'm sure Satan planted and is watering that and you need to overcome it. You are really very special, you didn't choose God, He chose you, and that's why. Take really good care of yourself with lots of exercise and healthy eating as well as prayer, lots of prayer, worship and praise, reading Bible and even more praising God. Please restrict your choice of future boyfriend to believers. If you're stuck with a non-believer you're blocking the boy that God's got lined up for you.

God bless you sweet sister and please keep us all posted so we can keep praying for you.

Love Andy xxx
Thank you. I pray about it everyday. I sent him a message last night telling him i was pregnant. He hasnt read it yet though. It will tell me when it gets opened. So please pray about that for me.
 
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I told the dad last night and he never replied to me but he blocked me on everything so i guess thats the answer i needed. Please continue to pray for a healthy pregnancy and pray for my baby since he obviously dont want to be in their life.
 
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I told the dad last night and he never replied to me but he blocked me on everything so i guess thats the answer i needed. Please continue to pray for a healthy pregnancy and pray for my baby since he obviously dont want to be in their life.
Yes it is. Now's time to move on and concentrate on those other two loves in your life (clue: they're both inside of you, but one not for long) :)

God bless you sweet lil sis, we'll all keep praying for you xx
 
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Tomorrow is my first appointment, guys! Im excited but nervous at the same time. They are going to be doing an ultrasound also. Please pray that everything turns out good and i dont get any bad news or anything about a miscarriage.
 
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My doctor appointment went really well. I got to see the baby and i got to hear a hearbeat! They said everything was measuring good. Thank you for praying for me. I go back in a month. Please keep us in your prayers but i really appreciate those of you praying now
 
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My doctor appointment went really well. I got to see the baby and i got to hear a hearbeat! They said everything was measuring good. Thank you for praying for me. I go back in a month. Please keep us in your prayers but i really appreciate those of you praying now
Thank God! I will keep you in my prayers. Please, focus on building your faith in Christ during this time.
 
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