Thanks to all who praying and counsel people that have issues. I think everyone has difficult friendships sometimes and not always invited...sometimes people just latch on to you and its hard to be free of them...because they have problems but they will not accept help or listen so they can be hard to be around. The thing that Im dealing with is..is it wrong to talk about these issues with other christians or even on this forum is its to do with someone elses behaviour adversely affecting you. I think I shared this on another forum but many people just said oh its gossip or you being judgemental. But I think if you care about someone even if they difficult its not like its meant to put that person down or talk behind their back its to sort out the issue and get some clarity on it. I mean nobody has to comment or read about stuff that does not concern them at all. But I think spiritually if the other party is not listening and youve tried talking to them and with another witness and they still not listening then is it ok then to tell it to the church. Because many of these issues are real they arent just petty issues it can be life or death. It can be like how long are you meant to tolerate someones abusive or manipulative behaviour before you decide its right to divorce or excommunicate. Should you stay friends witn someone whos decieving you or not honest? Stuff like that. Of course its given that you pray about this before posting on here. Otherwise, why have help, counselling or advice forums at all. Just say, sorry cant help you go to God and dont talk about it with anyone else cos that is just gossip. I dont think people who ask for help are wanting to gossip at all, and the genuine christians who care are giving up their precious time to answer these posts. Loving words and wise counsel make a difference. We are meant to encourage one another. So thank you to those that care. Bless.