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I'm in need of my comforter

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Hello TJ family,
It has been a while, and for that I oppologise. I'm not gonna make exusses as to where I've been or what I've been doing. I'm only gonna say, it's nice to be back home. I haven't backslid or anything like that, I've sinned as much as anyone has since I've been gone. No more, no less.
I am making my 1st prayer request since joining TJesus. This request is for myself for healing my heart from sorrow and regret, as well as for stregnth in our Lord Jesus, for the opportunity to witness like never before. (I'm not sure I'm ready, but the good Lord says HE is ready so I'll let him lead me.) Also, this is for the families involved for their sorrow and confusion. For them to see a glimpse of Gods bigger plan, and the sparkle of light in this time of darkness.

I have received some rather horrible news early thursday morning. My old college roommate had a very aggressive form of cancer that attacks your nerve endings. The doctors removed a tumor this summer in his back, and found it to be cancer. It has spread to his liver, then onto his lung, growing fast enough that it collapsed his lung before they could do surgery. His lung was removed. Later, still attacking nerve endings, it rendered him paralyzed from the waist down. Still being very positive, he talked of learning to waterski in a chair. The cancer wasn't done yet.
It started to attack other organs, and even effected his hearing. He was on a respirator with 100% O2, which I understand can't be done for long, as fluids start to build up around the heart. Thursday morning around 9am I received a call from Brian informing me that Bob most likely wouldn't make it thru the weekend.
I called off work and jumped in my car for the trip to Columbus Ohio. I got to the James Cancer Center on OSU's campus (World News reported it as in the top 3 cancer centers in the US), around 12pm or so. I hadn't spoken to his family, and didn't even know his room #. I asked for his room at the desk, and she couldn't find his name in the registry. My heart sunk, and my stomach worked it's way into my throat, almost choking me and making it hard to breath. She pointed me to another desk and said he may be in surgery and that's why they don't have a room # for him, but I kinda knew what had happened. The lady at the 2nd desk made a call and confirmed what I already knew. Bob had passed away early Thursday morning. Prolly even before I left my house.
I so wish I had the chance to speak to him just one more time. I'd give almost anything to be able to say "I love you Bob. You helped make me who I am today. I'm better off having known you and I am sorry I didn't stay in touch after I got married."

Bob Sochor, a gentleman and scholar. I'm better for having known him. He prolly kept me outta jail more times than I care to imagine. In a college town filled with ample opportunity to destroy ones future as much as build it, he was the voice of reason. Kind, thoughfull, generous, and cool as the other side of the pillow, he kept a positive outlook even up to the end. He will be missed.

May God bless your soul Bob.

This all being said, I don't know if he was saved. I don't know if he knew Jesus, or just knew OF Jesus. If things were the same from the last time I saw him, then I'd guess that he was not saved. I, of course, didn't know his heart though. Maybe he was saved and was fighting for the courage to witness. I can only hope this was the case. I'm going to be going to the funeral and I'm almost afraid to ask his family if he was saved. 1. I'm not prepared to hear that he wasn't, and 2. I don't want to stir up more sorrow for any of his saved family if he was not.

I'm not even sure what to pray for, I'm just at a loss. Please just speak to our Lord on my behalf, for I am unable at the present.

For where two or more gather...
God Bless,
Nigh
 
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Hello Nigh

Yes the Holy Spirit is your comforter and He will surround you with His love and awesome presence in this time of need. My heart goes out to you. I will be praying for you and his family

Your sister in Christ,
Gloria
 
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Nigh,

My dear husband, I am praying for you and I know that the Lord is already giving you comfort and has more to give as you need it. While I also regret that we did not keep in touch with Bob I will not permit it to happen again with anyone else in our lives. This is why we need to accept the call God has put on all our lives.. Let us not focus on where we made an error, but focus on Christ and where He leads us.

I love you ! Bobbie


2Co 1:3 Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort;

2Co 1:4 who comforteth us in all our affliction, that we may be able to comfort them that are in any affliction, through the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God.
 
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Nigh,

I will pray for you. Don't let the devil beat you down with this.

I pray that you will feel the peace of Jesus and the comfort of the Holy Spirit.

We learn with every experience the Lord allows our way.

I have learned along the way when a lot of people get sick with a serious illness, they find God real quick. I pray this was the case for your friend and his family.

Love your sister in Christ,
Mary :girl:

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Eve

Nigh,

I am very sorry for your loss. Your friend sounds like he was a very nice and kind person and even if he was not studying the bible he may have been instinctively following the way of the Lord. Perhaps you can take comfort, in that maybe at some point in his personal life, it sounds like the Lord might have touched his heart.

My thoughts and prayers are with you, may the Lord comfort you in your time of need.
 
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Dear Nigh,

Deep condolences for your loss.

How much you are bearing in your grieving heart. How guilt and self-recrimination increase the sorrow of loneliness over a missed beloved one. You already know God is sovereign over our times, and as your wife says.

I have experienced the confusion of not having given enough time to a departed loved one, and not knowing if he was saved. Consider your late friend surrounded by saved family, that Bob had heard God's perfect message, and that family might not know of his salvation. In the last moment, the one who has heard the Word can surely call out in suffering silence to his Savior.

As I read your words, this strong tribute smiles with promise~

Nigh said:
Bob Sochor, a gentleman and scholar. I'm better for having known him. He prolly kept me outta jail more times than I care to imagine. In a college town filled with ample opportunity to destroy ones future as much as build it, he was the voice of reason. Kind, thoughfull, generous, and cool as the other side of the pillow, he kept a positive outlook even up to the end. He will be missed.

May God bless your soul Bob.

My prayer goes to our LORD for you, Nigh.

By the grace and love of Jesus,
To Christ
 
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I knew Bob

Hey Nigh,
I was looking online for more information about what happened to Bob. I was a friend of his in Middle school and High School, though we had lost touch. The last time I saw him was when I went up to Kent to visit him in 92. He was a great guy, a good person. Glad to know he had some good friends like you around.

-Rob
 
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