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I need help overcoming sexual immorality

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Currently I am struggling deeply with this sin, a little back story I grew up Catholic but strayed, came back in my middle 20s but strayed hard again and now I'm on a better path yet still having a hard time breaking free. I started watching corn at age 10 and it became a daily occurrence for me in secret turning into a full blown addiction. I am no where near as bad as I was back then and since coming back to God I've gone months and weeks with abstaining yet lately I find myself failing every 7 to 10 days or so.

Perhaps I am not putting on the full armor of God and the darts of the enemy are hitting me with past thoughts and images but I truly hate the sin and find myself repulsed. However I'm not sure if there is something deep within me that is not yet addressed which is causing me to fail. I just don't know what to do to do or what to change to fix myself. I have removed all social media, I try to avoid movies with nudity, I have put blockers on my computer and restrictions on my phone.

I pray about it daily and ask God to remove that sin from me daily. I try to fast weekly and even fasted 5 days this week. Maybe my thinking is wrong and I know our deeds do not contribute to our salvation but I try to do as good a deeds as I can to create change within me and in some areas it has helped but in the problem I described it hasn't helped me much. I'm mad because I know the enemy is setting this trap because the enemy knows this is probably my greatest weakness.

Can anyone who is willing please pray for me and I will of course be more then willing to pray for you. I am afraid of hell but somehow I still find myself in those weak moments and not sure what will do the trick.

Is there a group out there of men who can help and keep each other accountable?

TLDR: I am struggling with corn and sexual immorality and my will feels to weak to overcome it fully. I pray to God but this seems like a thorn in my side, can anyone pray for me or give me advice or even a good group to join?
 
Have you fasted for help from God. For God word tells us some un clean spirits take fasting to be removed. This is a battle every believer faces I think. I know I did and know of many others who have, you can not over come it, God has to over come it for you, BUT you have great responsibility to trust in GOd and his word. THis was the last sin that had hold of me and took a while until I was free. But fasting what did it for me. We will always be tempted, BUT God will give us the power to over come the temptation, and I found over the years the temptations do get less and less. FASTING is a must IMO.

Your mind is a battlefield and you must guard it as your very soul is at stake !! any time you have a lustful thoughts, you have to run to Jesus, you have to rely on Jesus !! Now if you walking in the spirit all day and continue to speak with Jesus you will be in a much better place. Do not let any thought capture you, do not late any lustful thoughts sit in your mind. Also know the fight is real but the thought will flee, and you will be so happy you did not give in. When you do give in get down on your knees repent, AND FAST FOR 24 HRS to show God you are serious, he will set you free, it may take time but it will come, I have seen in work in my life and know of many testimonies of others it has worked in.

You need to be in the word every day, in prayer every day, and in constant relationship with Jesus every day,

Prayer is NOT enough for this door you opened to be shut, it requires fasting, even group fasting.


Mark 9-29

King James Bible
And he said unto them, This kind can come forth by nothing, but by prayer and fasting.
 
God word should bring fear into our hearts to help us stay away from sin,

1 Corinthians 6:9-10

Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.
Gods word will also bring comfort into our hearts knowing we he is faithful and is for us !!!

1 Corinthians 10:13

No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.
 
With porn, the best thing you can do is just lay it down. It's easier to lay down than smoking tobacco. Since you mentioned your timeframe, every 7-10 days, just know that when the desire comes you get on your knees and ask for freedom. Pray till it passes.
 
From the OP,

I need help...

Thanks for your candid post. For every one that posts about corn addiction, there are doubtless many others who find themselves in a similar situation.

is there a group out there of men who can help and keep each other accountable?
Yes, a minority. But you must seek them out.

can anyone pray for me or give me advice or even a good group to join?
The most effective prayers will come from yourself, even as you must begin exercising your spiritual senses. Practice makes perfect.

For every one that useth milk is unskilful in the word of righteousness: for he is a babe. But strong meat belongeth to them that are of full age, even those who by reason of use have their senses exercised to discern both good and evil. (Heb. 5)

And joining groups in general is yet another declension, a step down, from appropriating the authority that you personally have been given through Jesus Christ.

Corn is a fairly common and tough bondage loop. Several devils are at play, intending to keep you in a vicious cycle from which you are never to emerge to walk effectively in your high calling.

Good advice has been given re: fasting, abstaining from the ubiquitous media, and using your knee pads often. Even witches and their like regularly fast, as they acknowledge and seek to appropriate the spiritual power.

Forget Catholic and other denominational labels and focus directly on your relationship with The Boss i.e. Jesus Christ.

This is spiritual warfare; expect it, but don't fret over it. Greater is he who is in you...

Ask God to show you where your open doors are, where any curses are (curse = nothing more than a devil who has been given the right to rule in your life because you or your forefathers brought an unclean/accursed object (or activity) into your possession), and whether there are generational spirits involved.

Perhaps I am not putting on the full armor of God and the darts of the enemy are hitting me with past thoughts and images but I truly hate the sin and find myself repulsed
You're never gonna get delivered unless to take it to a certain level. If you just acknowledge your sin, that's not enough. If you confess it, and that's all you do, that's not enough. You actually need to turn away from the behavior (i.e. repent); you actually have to fight the tendencies that are giving that demon a hold in your body, or it won't come out. People don't know what behavior they're doing that's feeding these demons. Over time, other believers can start to see their behavior, and stronger believers can help them to identify where they're bound. When this is done, many people respond by saying, "I didn't realize that what I was doing was demonic. Thank you for pointing that out." Obviously, there are others who bail out because they want to keep their demons, they're offended, they don't want to change the way they behave. Building a base of strong believers is vital, so that when people come in to your group who are demonized, they can't stay that way because you've built a core of good people who are mature in Christ. This is what most "churches" and "Christian" forums never do and, as a result, they will never ever have a strong ministry.

Ironically, this is exactly what Satan fights against. The devil fights against getting that first five or ten people in that one location to start a ministry because he knows all about the foundation that you build on. Christ taught about building on a good foundation. Christ is our rock; if we don't build our foundation on him, eventually it's gonna fall apart.

We always have to take heed that we don't become one of those who fell apart. We always have to be humble and watch ourselves so we don't go off-track, because many people who thought they had a good ministry ended up getting destroyed by Satan. When we ask for a revelation of how these demons affect us, we get that knowledge from God alone. I wouldn't otherwise know this, if I hadn't suffered and then prayed to God and asked him to show me how to overcome the demons that I had.

This has been my calling in life, to hit rock bottom, learn how to deal with and overcome these demons, and teach other people how to do the same thing. In James 1:5, we learn that if any of you lack wisdom, let him ask God who is giving to all liberally. So every time I had an issue, there were many times I was confused and I didn't know why I was suffering and I had to go take a walk and pray to God and genuinely ask him in faith to teach me how to get out of the situation that I was in. There was no one else there to teach me. There comes a time when you have to get your wisdom from the Holy Spirit. So when I got that wisdom and applied it and it worked, I began to teach it to others.

Luke 11:11 says, "If a son shall ask bread of any of you that is a father, will he give him a stone? or if he ask a fish, will he for a fish give him a serpent?" This is Jesus letting us know that God the Father always wants to give us good things, but he also wants us to ask for those good things. When you're in a jam, and you don't know how to get delivered, you don't know how to get free, you need to ask. People forget to ask God. They sit there just waiting for God to do it for them, day after day. They go for months, even years, and never actually admit they're lost.

This is how God has chosen to interact with his people. God has chosen to let his people wander off into dark places to glorify himself by bringing them back out of those dark places. This is the creation we're living in. I didn't make it up, folks. I didn't make all this; God the Father did, and his Son. And if he wants us to interact with him in this way, and we don't want that, then shame on us because we're missing out on a whole bunch of blessings.

There's a procedure to overcome evil spirits in our life. And the procedure is always the same. There are four steps needed to take place in order for people to get delivered. Most of these steps, particularly 3 and 4, people never do. Most people only do steps 1 and 2; they stop there and they never get free.

1. Acknowledge the actions that you partake in that support the nature of these evil spirits in your flesh.

For a believer, step 1 is the end because they're faithfully gonna go on to do steps 2, 3 and 4. Sometimes step 1 is the most difficult. Because you can't see demons, you need to pray to God to show you how they operate. It could be something very subtle e.g. everywhere you go, you can't stop tapping your foot. It could be something so subtle as a shift in body language when one walks into a bar or a weight training room (an overkill "tough guy" body stance). You're seeing an arrogant, violent "don't mess with me" demon. Even unbelievers can notice the evil spirits in you. They don't know they're demons, but they don't like that nature in you because they don't have it. That's what determines if people get along together or don't get along together. If his demons don't like your demons, you're not gonna get along with him. If his demons don't like your Holy Spirit, of course you're not gonna get along with him. This is what makes people come together in likeminded fashion or not. This is why the Bible says we should be all of one mind and be in accordance with one another in our doctrine. That's why it's important to develop that core group mentioned earlier.

2. Truly repent of the behavior that you're doing.

You don't just go up to someone and say, "I repent, I'm a sinner, I don't like what I've been doing. I give it to God." And then you walk back out the door. That's not a complete repentance. A complete repentance is doing that, plus turning from the action and CONTINUING to turn from that action forever. In true repentance, one does not go back to sin. A true believer, when a sin is overcome, never returns to that sin. Is he sinless? No, he's not sinless, but he's now working on new sins or non-willful sins (i.e. a sin you're not yet aware of, or a sin that you're doing that you don't think is a sin. There is no sin that will overtake you, except those sins that are common to man e.g. road rage with its momentary manifestation of a demon. And God always leaves you a way out. It's why the Bible says to not let the sun go down on your anger, because believers do get angry, and they need to deal with it before they go to bed, else they give place to the devil, and that place is you because you allowed that devil to operate through you.). You can't be a believer and also be a willful sinner. Once you become aware that it's a sin, and you continue to do it, you're not a true believer.

When true repentance is practiced, your body is no longer a quality habitat for that demon. Demons are like animals. If you take a fish out of water, it can't thrive. If you put a lion in a cage, it can't thrive. Different demons thrive in different habitats. If you wanna be prideful, you're gonna have those spirits. Whatever you're willing to act out through your vessel is what you have now given as a habitat for a spirit. Of course, this works for the Holy Spirit, as well. If you're willing to do selfless acts of love, then you've now given your vessel as a habitat for the Holy Spirit. If you don't do that, then you don't have the level of Spirit, that double portion of God's power, that people who constantly yield their vessel have.

This works both ways. People think because I teach about demons, that I don't know about the Holy Ghost. I know about the Holy Ghost, but we're taught to wrestle against principalities. The Bible says we're not to be ignorant of Satan's devices, so somebody's gotta focus on revealing the wiles of Satan, teaching people how to resist the devil. And the people who don't wanna hear about this are not true believers either, because if you don't wanna fight the devil, then you're not a believer.

3. Strive daily for perfect resistance of the sinful tendencies.

4. Persist in resisting the sin until the stronghold is broken. (Most people never fight hard enough to make the devil tap out.)

Most people never partake in steps 3 and 4 and never get delivered.

Godspeed, my friend.
 
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Currently I am struggling deeply with this sin, a little back story I grew up Catholic but strayed, came back in my middle 20s but strayed hard again and now I'm on a better path yet still having a hard time breaking free. I started watching corn at age 10 and it became a daily occurrence for me in secret turning into a full blown addiction. I am no where near as bad as I was back then and since coming back to God I've gone months and weeks with abstaining yet lately I find myself failing every 7 to 10 days or so.

Perhaps I am not putting on the full armor of God and the darts of the enemy are hitting me with past thoughts and images but I truly hate the sin and find myself repulsed. However I'm not sure if there is something deep within me that is not yet addressed which is causing me to fail. I just don't know what to do to do or what to change to fix myself. I have removed all social media, I try to avoid movies with nudity, I have put blockers on my computer and restrictions on my phone.

I pray about it daily and ask God to remove that sin from me daily. I try to fast weekly and even fasted 5 days this week. Maybe my thinking is wrong and I know our deeds do not contribute to our salvation but I try to do as good a deeds as I can to create change within me and in some areas it has helped but in the problem I described it hasn't helped me much. I'm mad because I know the enemy is setting this trap because the enemy knows this is probably my greatest weakness.

Can anyone who is willing please pray for me and I will of course be more then willing to pray for you. I am afraid of hell but somehow I still find myself in those weak moments and not sure what will do the trick.

Is there a group out there of men who can help and keep each other accountable?

TLDR: I am struggling with corn and sexual immorality and my will feels to weak to overcome it fully. I pray to God but this seems like a thorn in my side, can anyone pray for me or give me advice or even a good group to join?
Hi I would offer .

Thorn in the side, The prickling of the loving laws of God, the work of creating a good conscience in sons of God born again believers.

Christ in us has come to destroy the work of the devil which began in the garden. with four words of false prophecy ."Neither shall you touch"

The lust of the flesh a desire to see nakedness leading to the hidden tree of eternal life in the center. . . . . . . the lust of the eye taking over creating lustful touch . . . death.

Lust of flesh working with lust of the eye the two-building block of false pride

1 John 2:16 For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.
Lust of the flesh earthly animal instinct natural unredeemed.

Work of the Holy Father the heavenly work of redemption

Dan 4:15-16 Make him wet with dew from the sky. Cause him to live with the animals in the fields of grass.;Take his human mind away from him. Instead, give him the mind of an animal for seven years.

In that way

Philippians 2:5 Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus:

Keep praying to both hear and do His good will, he will never give up.
 
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