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Hi my husband is Greek orthodox and I come from a born again family. I wouldn't say I was full Christian I just new bits and pieces. This year I decided to pick up my cross and follow Jesus. It is the best decision I made...

I read my Bible more often, sing praises and pray constantly...

My daughter and I read the Bible every morning and night and we pray together.

Anyways my husband started asking me questions about Jesus more often and so I asked him if he was willing for us to have a more closer relationship with God. Like praying and reading together..
And long story short he said he doesn't want to get closer to God knowing his parents and siblings are not either. And it's not his time to know him more.

Him telling me that alone took me by shock!! I knew he cared about what his family thought of him but I didn't know to this extent.
So I asked him so if your parents go to hell you would rather go there instead of trying to be the one saving them from it and he agreed.
Now I'm a bit lost of what to do. I know it's in God hands and I just feel like if I can't save my husband's soul who's soul can I save?? If I can't even talk to my husband about Jesus and his the one who has seen the most things about what Jesus has done for him and still doesn't want that deeper relationship.

It's probably none of my business it's between him and God but I can't seem to get over it.
I'm praying constantly for God to open his eyes and stop following the crowd and I feel like the more I pray the more he comes against me. And I don't even speak about Jesus to him after that day. Like if we have an argument about something he will turn around and say you think your better then me because your reading the Bible. When the argument had nothing to do with that.

I feel like the more closer I'm getting to God the more pressure it's putting in my relationship..

I keep praying about my marriage and I had a dream I was in a big white double story house and my daughter and I were on the top of the house and we were praying and so happy and my daughter called to her dad and I looked down and he was mowing the lawn outside he didn't want to look up at us.
If anyone knows what the meaning of that dream was please let me know...

And also if anyone has some advice for my situation please let me know...

Thank you for your time God bless.
 
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Just keep on moving slow, but keep moving. That is... when you can and as he easily allows it, talk to him again. But also you in your own personal time with God talk to God about it. Since your daughter is already involved with you and the Lord, include her in the conversation as much as you can according to her age and understanding. It could happen fast or it could take years... or then again it may never happen. God knows! Don't give up hope and don't lose your own way through compromise.

Give God always the glory!
 
Loyal
Dear sister know that I am praying for your situations,,,,,,, and may I say that is awesome about you and your daughter spending time together in the word and prayer, few parents I think get to experience that Joy.

I am so sorry about your husband and as you know we are not the ones that save it is our Lord, you have done God will by planting the seed and watering it but the Holly spirit is the one who draws people in, so we should all continue to pray, family strong holds are extremely powerful and much prayer and fasting is what I suggest

thanks for the courage to share, you are not alone many go through this, but as long as someone is living they still have a chance so never give up hope
 
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Dear sister, I understand the pain and how frustrating it is for you. Continue praying with your daughter for your husband. God is faithful, He knows our tomorrow, He sees what we cannot see, all we have to do is to walk by Faith.

Your attitude and character also play a big role.

1 Corinthians 7 verse 13, Paul give an advise: "And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him.
verse 14: For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy..."

You might feel like you are going against the tide, but I pray that you and your daughter have PEACE.

PHILIPPIANS 4:6-7 : "Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your request be made known to God;
verse 7: and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus."

May the Spirit of the Lord strengthen you and your daughter. May He also minister in your husband.
 
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Hi, from experience I can relate to some of what you've written.

Although it may seem like the best thing to initiate talking about God with your husband, the following scripture comes to mind:

1 Peter 3:1-5

1 In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if some refuse to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over 2 by observing your pure and reverent lives.

3 Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. 4 You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God. 5 This is how the holy women of old made themselves beautiful. They put their trust in God and accepted the authority of their husbands.

So from the above, it seems keeping close to Jesus, being prayerful and careful to be in submission is very important. Not bringing up the topic of your husband's belief unless he does may possibly be best, and keep lifting him before the Lord as you have been, giving cares to Him and waiting patiently.
 
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Hi, from experience I can relate to some of what you've written.

Although it may seem like the best thing to initiate talking about God with your husband, the following scripture comes to mind:

1 Peter 3:1-5

1 In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if some refuse to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over 2 by observing your pure and reverent lives.

3 Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. 4 You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God. 5 This is how the holy women of old made themselves beautiful. They put their trust in God and accepted the authority of their husbands.

So from the above, it seems keeping close to Jesus, being prayerful and careful to be in submission is very important. Not bringing up the topic of your husband's belief unless he does may possibly be best, and keep lifting him before the Lord as you have been, giving cares to Him and waiting patiently.
You are correct. As you mentioned at the end .."waiting patiently," It becomes a challenge when overwhelmed with such circumstances because anxiety in most cases overrides the very patience we need to exercise. Thank you for your input.
 
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Certainly emotions can seem overwhelming at times. I have struggled too. I found pouring my heart out to the Lord or simply saying ' I feel xyz' and asking for him to help but also really listening and meditating on what He shows each day in his Word really helpful at the beginning of the day.....or when I've been able to.

A friend encouraged me to think of different ways of managing emotions and I think this is an area many may find difficult. But God is faithful as you keep turning to him for help. One idea we discussed was to scribble or draw or write on paper the thoughts or emotions and 'give' it to the Lord and then tear it up. Another idea is to prayer walk.
 
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Certainly emotions can seem overwhelming at times. I have struggled too. I found pouring my heart out to the Lord or simply saying ' I feel xyz' and asking for him to help but also really listening and meditating on what He shows each day in his Word really helpful at the beginning of the day.....or when I've been able to.

A friend encouraged me to think of different ways of managing emotions and I think this is an area many may find difficult. But God is faithful as you keep turning to him for help. One idea we discussed was to scribble or draw or write on paper the thoughts or emotions and 'give' it to the Lord and then tear it up. Another idea is to prayer walk.
Inspiring indeed. God bless
 
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You are correct. As you mentioned at the end .."waiting patiently," It becomes a challenge when overwhelmed with such circumstances because anxiety in most cases overrides the very patience we need to exercise. Thank you for your input.
Thank you so much for these words seekoftruth and easydoesit62. I do have anxiety and that's the main thing I'm working on. Also I will take your advice and right my emotions on paper and give it to the Lord God bless you both
 
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Thank you so much for these words seekoftruth and easydoesit62. I do have anxiety and that's the main thing I'm working on. Also I will take your advice and right my emotions on paper and give it to the Lord God bless you both
God bless you.
 
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Hi my husband is Greek orthodox and I come from a born again family. I wouldn't say I was full Christian I just new bits and pieces. This year I decided to pick up my cross and follow Jesus. It is the best decision I made...

I read my Bible more often, sing praises and pray constantly...

My daughter and I read the Bible every morning and night and we pray together.

Anyways my husband started asking me questions about Jesus more often and so I asked him if he was willing for us to have a more closer relationship with God. Like praying and reading together..
And long story short he said he doesn't want to get closer to God knowing his parents and siblings are not either. And it's not his time to know him more.

Him telling me that alone took me by shock!! I knew he cared about what his family thought of him but I didn't know to this extent.
So I asked him so if your parents go to hell you would rather go there instead of trying to be the one saving them from it and he agreed.
Now I'm a bit lost of what to do. I know it's in God hands and I just feel like if I can't save my husband's soul who's soul can I save?? If I can't even talk to my husband about Jesus and his the one who has seen the most things about what Jesus has done for him and still doesn't want that deeper relationship.

It's probably none of my business it's between him and God but I can't seem to get over it.
I'm praying constantly for God to open his eyes and stop following the crowd and I feel like the more I pray the more he comes against me. And I don't even speak about Jesus to him after that day. Like if we have an argument about something he will turn around and say you think your better then me because your reading the Bible. When the argument had nothing to do with that.

I feel like the more closer I'm getting to God the more pressure it's putting in my relationship..

I keep praying about my marriage and I had a dream I was in a big white double story house and my daughter and I were on the top of the house and we were praying and so happy and my daughter called to her dad and I looked down and he was mowing the lawn outside he didn't want to look up at us.
If anyone knows what the meaning of that dream was please let me know...

And also if anyone has some advice for my situation please let me know...

Thank you for your time God bless.
I will try to show the light on where you are at now as you begin this Journey, from what you have shown us. For you have all the markings of a "True Child of God". As if a "prodigal son" has come home. It will seen to you now, the speech i will use as if it was a "gentle nest of riddles" but you must not try to understand and the "LORD" will give you understanding. And do not trust in your dreams. For He is the one that is calling you, just like the sound of a distance drummer and your feet are marching unto sound of that beat. You must 1st have to be made a "disciple of Christ" and that is why you are reading "HIS" Word and have a appetite for it. It is called a "Irresistible draw" You must feed upon the bread of Life" now, "The Word of GOD", like a "Pregnant child" that has to feed for 2" to bring to "birth",, "A New Birth", "You Must Be Born AGAIN", "Born of the Spirit of the Living GOD" You are on your way to become a "New Creature". "Born of GOD" and wash in His Blood. This language should be familiar to you. Your "Warfare is already begun", " and a man's enemy with be of their own household", You will be different in the inside. "Start reading the Gospel According to St. John". and continue into the Book of "ACTS of The Apostles", Then Travel "The Epistle to The Romans". and make Sure you have a Good translation of The Biblical Text. Either pre-1984 "NIV" or "NKJV", and stay completely away from "Paraphases". If you start off right, you will not have to turn around and come back. If your travel in the wrong direction and go a 1000 miles and realize you are going the wrong way, you must turn around and come back a 1000 miles before you get back on the right "PATH"! And on the way back, there are no short cuts". And pay attention to your "Born Again" parent. " But The WORD is YOUR GUIDE" in Whole and not partial.
You Must Get it in you, the outside will do you No Good! that you may have that "Personal relationship" with "GOD your Father" through His SON, Jesus Christ Our Lord" There are No short cuts to get there. That is your GOAL, so you must stay on the Path to
"Holiness and Sanctification" That is The Will of GOD for you! And let no one direct you into any other area. You must deny yourself, You have been Purchase by a Price, bought by The Blood of Jesus, You do not belong to yourself anymore, You have been purchase by God. And Now you have become a "Slave' you have a New Master and His name is "Jesus Christ" who is now Our LORD.
and He has called you into Obedience! "You are called to deny your self". "Not My will LORD But your Will Done" even if I have to go to The Cross! And LORD My prayer is whatever you want, "For The Lord is My Shepherd and I shall not WANT", for I have everything I need, [so long as I got you LORD]
I have given you My Family, My sons, My daughters, My wife, My Husband, I have given you everything, do with them as you please!
How can you do that?
"I can do all things through Christ Jesus who strenghthens me" "I surrender all" before the Throne of Grace" even in tears" "For he catches all my tears in His Bottle"

So at this time, do not worry about your Husband, In this stage of your life, You must Learn of Christ, then He will reveal to you who is the Father, That No Man or teacher or priest or Human Shepherd can do, And when "The Holy Spirit" shall come in to you and dwell and live in you! He will reveal all this Truth to you and much more, You have entered the forever and ever and for evermore and you will never die, for you have enter into "etenity" and for ever moment you will be taught of GOD, and your Joy and Glory will increase and learning about your Father every moment that exist in eternity and it will never end. After a Billion years, it will be just like you just begun. So alll your pain and suffering, that you are about to endure is going to worth every drop!! "No cross, no crown"!

I hope this has fed you!
Not the meal you had expected, but from the Table of GOD.
 
Member
Just keep on moving slow, but keep moving. That is... when you can and as he easily allows it, talk to him again. But also you in your own personal time with God talk to God about it. Since your daughter is already involved with you and the Lord, include her in the conversation as much as you can according to her age and understanding. It could happen fast or it could take years... or then again it may never happen. God knows! Don't give up hope and don't lose your own way through compromise.

Give God always the glory!
My daughter is 4 yrs old she understands alot. She has asked her father to read the Bible for her once before bed and h
I will try to show the light on where you are at now as you begin this Journey, from what you have shown us. For you have all the markings of a "True Child of God". As if a "prodigal son" has come home. It will seen to you now, the speech i will use as if it was a "gentle nest of riddles" but you must not try to understand and the "LORD" will give you understanding. And do not trust in your dreams. For He is the one that is calling you, just like the sound of a distance drummer and your feet are marching unto sound of that beat. You must 1st have to be made a "disciple of Christ" and that is why you are reading "HIS" Word and have a appetite for it. It is called a "Irresistible draw" You must feed upon the bread of Life" now, "The Word of GOD", like a "Pregnant child" that has to feed for 2" to bring to "birth",, "A New Birth", "You Must Be Born AGAIN", "Born of the Spirit of the Living GOD" You are on your way to become a "New Creature". "Born of GOD" and wash in His Blood. This language should be familiar to you. Your "Warfare is already begun", " and a man's enemy with be of their own household", You will be different in the inside. "Start reading the Gospel According to St. John". and continue into the Book of "ACTS of The Apostles", Then Travel "The Epistle to The Romans". and make Sure you have a Good translation of The Biblical Text. Either pre-1984 "NIV" or "NKJV", and stay completely away from "Paraphases". If you start off right, you will not have to turn around and come back. If your travel in the wrong direction and go a 1000 miles and realize you are going the wrong way, you must turn around and come back a 1000 miles before you get back on the right "PATH"! And on the way back, there are no short cuts". And pay attention to your "Born Again" parent. " But The WORD is YOUR GUIDE" in Whole and not partial.
You Must Get it in you, the outside will do you No Good! that you may have that "Personal relationship" with "GOD your Father" through His SON, Jesus Christ Our Lord" There are No short cuts to get there. That is your GOAL, so you must stay on the Path to
"Holiness and Sanctification" That is The Will of GOD for you! And let no one direct you into any other area. You must deny yourself, You have been Purchase by a Price, bought by The Blood of Jesus, You do not belong to yourself anymore, You have been purchase by God. And Now you have become a "Slave' you have a New Master and His name is "Jesus Christ" who is now Our LORD.
and He has called you into Obedience! "You are called to deny your self". "Not My will LORD But your Will Done" even if I have to go to The Cross! And LORD My prayer is whatever you want, "For The Lord is My Shepherd and I shall not WANT", for I have everything I need, [so long as I got you LORD]
I have given you My Family, My sons, My daughters, My wife, My Husband, I have given you everything, do with them as you please!
How can you do that?
"I can do all things through Christ Jesus who strenghthens me" "I surrender all" before the Throne of Grace" even in tears" "For he catches all my tears in His Bottle"

So at this time, do not worry about your Husband, In this stage of your life, You must Learn of Christ, then He will reveal to you who is the Father, That No Man or teacher or priest or Human Shepherd can do, And when "The Holy Spirit" shall come in to you and dwell and live in you! He will reveal all this Truth to you and much more, You have entered the forever and ever and for evermore and you will never die, for you have enter into "etenity" and for ever moment you will be taught of GOD, and your Joy and Glory will increase and learning about your Father every moment that exist in eternity and it will never end. After a Billion years, it will be just like you just begun. So alll your pain and suffering, that you are about to endure is going to worth every drop!! "No cross, no crown"!

I hope this has fed you!
Not the meal you had expected, but from the Table of GOD.

Wow just wow thank God for his word . It's definitely the meal I needed to read. The holy spirit is speaking through you. I haven't cried like this in a while. Feels like you read me like a book.

Thank you for the scriptures I will start reading them as I start this journey as a believer I do feel as I need to get baptized also but I don't have a church I go too yet.
Thank you for your encouraging words and God bless you so much
 
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Dear sister know that I am praying for your situations,,,,,,, and may I say that is awesome about you and your daughter spending time together in the word and prayer, few parents I think get to experience that Joy.

I am so sorry about your husband and as you know we are not the ones that save it is our Lord, you have done God will by planting the seed and watering it but the Holly spirit is the one who draws people in, so we should all continue to pray, family strong holds are extremely powerful and much prayer and fasting is what I suggest

thanks for the courage to share, you are not alone many go through this, but as long as someone is living they still have a chance so never give up hope
Thank you for your continuous prayers for me. I will start fasting and praying
 

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