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I'm just gonna throw it out there, I can't stop masturbating, I've tried everything. I've promised God, I've promised I would stop doing certain things I enjoy if I masturbate again. I've also met Christians who say that its ok and everyone does it, but, I feel very guilty every time, to me, this means that The Holy Spirit is trying to tell me that its a sin, I've prayed about it and tried many different things but I just can't shake it.
I'm 17 and I'm, not the wisest person ever so... I could use some help here. if any of you are older Christian guys and have gone through this yourself, let me know what helped you.
 
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fast every time you do it, the next day,

read your bible every day, pray to Do Gods will.

develop spiritual discipline, your only 17, I am excited that this even bothers you, praise the Lord, he will set you free, but you have to also have to be willing to have self control, dont look at movies or magazines that are going to make you mind go in the gutter, take responsibility for your thoughts, but at the same time know that Jesus is the only way you will be set free, so keep praying to him and reading his word. Make sure you get born again make it your most important hearts desire to know God and become closer to him, and that starts by reading his word.
 
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fast every time you do it, the next day,

read your bible every day, pray to Do Gods will.

develop spiritual discipline, your only 17, I am excited that this even bothers you, praise the Lord, he will set you free, but you have to also have to be willing to have self control, dont look at movies or magazines that are going to make you mind go in the gutter, take responsibility for your thoughts, but at the same time know that Jesus is the only way you will be set free, so keep praying to him and reading his word. Make sure you get born again make it your most important hearts desire to know God and become closer to him, and that starts by reading his word.
thanks for the advice, i will try my best
 
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That awesome now you can not do this with out Jesus, that I promise you, have you given your life to Jesus yet?? (I am thinking you have just want to confirm)
 
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That awesome now you can not do this without Jesus, that I promise you, have you given your life to Jesus yet?? (I am thinking you have just wanted to confirm)
yes I grew up in a Christian home and fully gave my life to Jesus
 
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yes I grew up in a Christian home and fully gave my life to Jesus

awesome brother, I figured you did but had to ask. being involved in ministry where other believers are to help and encourage and strengthen you also is a very good thing. The people you surround yourself with is also a very important role of who you become later in life.

I will be praying for you
 
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The flesh war against the "Spirit", one wax strong against the other. Look at it in this form. Walk in the Spirit, the stronger your Spirit will get and the stronger you feel the anointing, in a sense it is a reward for not yielding to the flesh. The more you walk in the spirit and feel the anointing, the stronger the flesh [lust] will try to counter. The more you walk in flesh the stronger the lust gets. you can prevail! know the pattern, The Joy of the Spirit is more beneficial. but your enemy is cunning. And Dave is correct fasting works hand in hand here. It becomes a short mind battle, once you understand and get to a certain point. Just don't feed the rabbit by the eye gate. "don't look her in her eyes' as well "and don't talk about the weather", or what are you cooking" you will be alright. It is also a battle field, and she has better weapons than you do! So fight the Good fight, Because if Jesus do not come soon, you are going to have a long fight.
This is where "XBOX" is a great deterrent sometimes. keep fighting! Get knock down, get back up!
 
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awesome brother, I figured you did but had to ask. being involved in ministry where other believers are to help and encourage and strengthen you also is a very good thing. The people you surround yourself with is also a very important role of who you become later in life.

I will be praying for you
thanks sooo much!
 
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The flesh war against the "Spirit", one wax strong against the other. Look at it in this form. Walk in the Spirit, the stronger your Spirit will get and the stronger you feel the anointing, in a sense it is a reward for not yielding to the flesh. The more you walk in the spirit and feel the anointing, the stronger the flesh [lust] will try to counter. The more you walk in flesh the stronger the lust gets. you can prevail! know the pattern, The Joy of the Spirit is more beneficial. but your enemy is cunning. And Dave is correct fasting works for hand in hand here. It becomes a short mind battle, once you understand and get to a certain point. Just don't feed the rabbit by the eye gate. "don't look her in her eyes' as well "and don't talk about the weather", or what are you cooking" you will be alright. It is also a battlefield, and she has better weapons than you do! So fight the Good fight, Because if Jesus does not come soon, you are going to have a long fight.
This is where "XBOX" is a great deterrent sometimes. keep fighting! Get knocked down, get back up!
thanks, you guys helped a ton!. I will heed your advice and try my best. I've been reading devotionals when i wake up and doing my own prayer time in the afternoon. it helps a lot, and again thanks!
 
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I'm just gonna throw it out there, I can't stop masturbating, I've tried everything. I've promised God, I've promised I would stop doing certain things I enjoy if I masturbate again. I've also met Christians who say that its ok and everyone does it, but, I feel very guilty every time, to me, this means that The Holy Spirit is trying to tell me that its a sin, I've prayed about it and tried many different things but I just can't shake it.
I'm 17 and I'm, not the wisest person ever so... I could use some help here. if any of you are older Christian guys and have gone through this yourself, let me know what helped you.
I'm just gonna throw it out there, I can't stop masturbating, I've tried everything. I've promised God, I've promised I would stop doing certain things I enjoy if I masturbate again. I've also met Christians who say that its ok and everyone does it, but, I feel very guilty every time, to me, this means that The Holy Spirit is trying to tell me that its a sin, I've prayed about it and tried many different things but I just can't shake it.
I'm 17 and I'm, not the wisest person ever so... I could use some help here. if any of you are older Christian guys and have gone through this yourself, let me know what helped you.
Hi Joshg, Scripture informs us that "all things work to the good for those in Christ Jesus". We come to Jesus because we are sinners and we want to change, and the Lord promises he will change us. None of us can change ourselves, if we could, we wouldn't need Jesus. He accepts us as we are. We are called to obey Jesus, what does he call us to do? He calls us to walk the extra mile, turn the other cheek, take care of widows and orphans, if someone takes our coat, let them also take our shirt, if someone is hungry feed them. I don't think I've heard him say we are to stop sinning, this happens as we grow. The grace comes and then we deal with these things. In the mean time, the fact that you can't overcome your sin, keeps you humble. You can't condemn another when you can't overcome youself. Satan is the accuser of the brethren and he is on your case regarding masturbation. All the while you feel guilt, it is he that gains the victory. Stop making an issue of it, it will go away in God's time. Take your mind off it, if it happens, it happens. What you are called to do is start embracing your faith and leave the rest to Jesus. The more you allow Satan to keep you bound by guilt the longer it will be before you are delivered. Bless you enjoy your walk.
 
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I'm just gonna throw it out there, I can't stop masturbating, I've tried everything. I've promised God, I've promised I would stop doing certain things I enjoy if I masturbate again. I've also met Christians who say that its ok and everyone does it, but, I feel very guilty every time, to me, this means that The Holy Spirit is trying to tell me that its a sin, I've prayed about it and tried many different things but I just can't shake it.
I'm 17 and I'm, not the wisest person ever so... I could use some help here. if any of you are older Christian guys and have gone through this yourself, let me know what helped you.

Greeting Josh,

Masturbating is not a sin, I will come back to that.

You are 17, your body is changing to be a man, as a result you will generate *****, more ***** than you need, that is natural, it happens to us all, some more than others, the more you eject it, the more your body will make.

So if it is not a sin where is the problem, it is in your mind and your eyes. You may look at something, it causes you to masturbate, that is sin because it is causing you to lust. The same with the mind, you may not be looking at something, someone, part of someone, but your find causes you to think lustful thoughts.

Masturbating is not a sin, BUT lusting is. Looking at another persons parts, either in a picture or due to the tight clothes they are wearing, or the fact they are wearing very few or small items of clothing, you mind is always ahead of you, allowing these things, these thoughts, can be very addictive.

Matthew 5:28 (NKJV)
But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

This does not matter if you look at a man or woman, it is still lustful thoughts, it is still sin.
 
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I'm just gonna throw it out there, I can't stop masturbating, I've tried everything. I've promised God, I've promised I would stop doing certain things I enjoy if I masturbate again. I've also met Christians who say that its ok and everyone does it, but, I feel very guilty every time, to me, this means that The Holy Spirit is trying to tell me that its a sin, I've prayed about it and tried many different things but I just can't shake it.
I'm 17 and I'm, not the wisest person ever so... I could use some help here. if any of you are older Christian guys and have gone through this yourself, let me know what helped you.
God created your sex-drive, when He had finished creating man He said it was “very good,” which includes the sex-drive. God forbid if you had an accident that resulted in the loss of you testis all desire for sexual release would be gone and have no desire or ability to masturbate or have sex. In other words your sex-drive normal.
God in his Word is not shy in defining all sexual relations BETWEEN PERSONS outside of heterosexual marriage as sin, even mentioning beastialty (sex with animals!). But nowhere in the Bible does it say masturbation is a sin. The sin of Legalism is making up rules that are not in the Bible and calling it sin when the manmade rule is broken. Remember the incident where Jesus was at a meal the legalistic Pharisee was shocked at Him for not washing his hands before a meal thinking Jesus had sinned (Luke 11:37-53)? Do you remember when Jesus healed a man’s withered hand on the sabbath, the Legalistic Pharisees were angry because the thought Jesus had sinned by doing it on the Sabbath (Luke 6:6-11)? Even though the Old Testament doesn’t say either are a sin! Jesus said condemned the legalistic Pharisees “They worship me in vain; their teachings are merely human rules. You have let go of the commands of God and are holding on to human traditions”(Mark 7:7-8). If you lived back then; how would you have felt before the Pharisees if you did these two things (without Jesus’s perfect understanding of Scripture)? Guilty! Even though you hadn’t committed actual sin?
The guilt some experience after masturbation, is down to hearing well meaning pastors etc condemn it as sin without Biblical proof and so believing them. Plus as we instinctively know we should do it in private (and the same with marital sex) so we find somewhere private to do it, it is easy to miss-associate it with actual sinful things done in secret, ie theft. Thus experiencing false guilt. Like false guilt experienced by someone who can’t drive told it was a sin to cycle to church on a Sunday, because a pastor classed it as ‘work’. As a result of believing the condemnation; they feel shame and worthless.

Avoid the dangers of getting sucked into a porn addiction. Porn activities are far from the reality of marriage intimacy. However It’s clear most Christians unfortunately don’t understand the Biblical definition of lust because of generations of incorrect teaching of the topic:

‘You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery [moicheuo]’; but I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman [gune] with lust [Epithumeo] for her has already committed adultery [moicheuo] with her in his heart’
moicheuo means adultery, not sexual immorality in general otherwise would have used Greek word Porniea.

If you say all lust is a sin then you have to also say the Bible says Jesus lusted and one of the qualifications of a bishop is lust:

“I have EARNESTLY DESIRED (Epithumeo) to eat this Passover with you before I suffer.” Lk22:15
‘... Whoever aspires to be an overseer desires [Epithumeo] a noble task.’ 1Tim3:1

So you can see there are good Epithumeo and bad Epithumeo, good lusts and bad lusts.

In the above Matt5:27-28 you can see the Greek word translated ‘adultery’ is moicheuo, not the Greek word Pornia. Pornia is sexual immorality, basically any sexual relations between persons outside of heterosexual marriage. Whereas moicheuo is purly to do with a married person having sexual relations with someone other than their spouse. The Greek word translated ‘woman’ is the word gune which can mean woman or wife dependant on the context it is mentioned. As it is mention in the context of adultery the correct translation should be wife, not woman. Indeed the first English translation by William Tyndale translated gune as ‘wyfe’ [the Old English spelling for ‘wife’]. So the context is adultery, not sexual sin generally as in Porniea.

Paul uses Epithumeo when quoting the Ten Commandments in the Old Testament and this time the translators have translated it more accurately as ‘covet’:

'...For the commandments, “You shall not commit adultery,” “You shall not murder,” “You shall not steal,” “You shall not bear false witness," “You shall not covet (Epithumeo),"...Love does no harm to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfilment of the law.' Rom13:8-10

‘...I would not have known about coveting [epithumia] if the Law had not said, “You shall not covet [Epithumeo].”’Rom 7:7

Paul is quoting the Greek Septuagint translation (translated approx 200BC) of Ex20:17 and Duet5:21 about ‘...You shall not covet [Epithumeo] your neighbor’s wife.’ So Epithumeo is referring to coveting your neighbour’s wife. The Hebrew word translated 'covet' is Chamad and this is‘... “to desire (brings damage upon the thing or person desired) and to try to obtain”...with the result that a legal maxim has become a rule for governing conduct...’ ‘The verb [action] epitumeo corresponds to a Hebrew word which implies a temptation to acquire ownership...which lends itself to the notion of acquisition of property.’ So Matt5:27-28 is intending to pursue an adulterous sexual relationship, not merely being attracted to someone or fantasy.
In the light of Matt5:27-28 the hyperbole verses about pluck eyeball out and cutting off hand (v29-30) say: That means; if looking at a woman causes you to intend to pursue adultery? Then don’t look! And if touching a woman causes you to intend to pursue adultery? Then don’t touch! As such destroys marriages and hell will be your penalty! It is no coincidence that the passage goes on to talk about divorce (v31-32) because men who intended to commit adultery would divorce their wives in order to marry their new interest (so they thought they were technically not committing adultery), but these two verses prohibit this adulterous divorce. This is nothing to do with masturbation alone in your own in your bedroom.
‘...you shall be holy (qadosh); for I am holy (qadosh) ...' (Lev11:44).

The Hebrew word for betrothal is Kiddushin. This means set apart from ‘A’ unto ‘B’. So in marriage a woman is set apart from all other women unto her husband and vice-versa with the man.
'Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one (echad)!' (Deut6:4).

'Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one (echad) flesh' (Gen2:24).

'One' is the Hebrew is 'echad.' So the above to passages show marital sexuality reflects the oneness of God.
‘Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled (amiantos) ; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge’ (Heb 13:4).

The Greek word amiantos means undefiled, pure.
The above passages show marriage and marital sexual act are holy in Gods eyes. Marital sexual relations are holy, a holy duty 'Stop depriving one another...' 1Cor7:5. Masturbation should not get in the way of that duty if you are married.

'Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure (hagnos), whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think (logizomai) on these things.' (Philippians 4:8)

'Think' on the Greek is logizomai which is 'to to consider, take account, weigh, meditate on' and is a verb (verb being an action, in this case an action of thought). 'Pure' is the Greek word 'hagnos' which is to be HOLY. So Philippians 4:8 teaches us that we are to think on the holy, even including the holy act of marital sexual relations.

If a person is married and wants to have sex; the only legitimate avenue is to have sex with your spouse. The same goes in their thought life. So when they are unable to get sex with their spouse masturbate thinking only of their spouse. If a person is single and wants to have sex; the only legitimate avenue is to marry someone of the opposite sex to have sex. Therefore the same in their thought life. So it is legitimate for the single person to in private; imagine having committed marital sexual relations with an imperfect imaginary/potential spouse while masturbating, thanking God for your God given sex drive. However don’t use such imagination when around others, because it could give opportunity to intend to pursue a sexually immoral relationship, breaking the underlying principle of Matt5:27-28, which would lead to sexual acts with that person.

Using porn to masturbate is a downward spiral of addiction to an unreal fantasy world far from marital intimacy. Fill your time with other activities, don’t masturbate excessively and look for a spouse.



FLESH?

The Biblical definition of Flesh isn’t the urges of your God given sex drive. Flesh is our sinful intentions. Thinking our bodily desires are sinful is getting into the heresy of Gnosticism ‘If you have died with Christ to the elementary principles of the world, why, as if you were living in the world, do you submit yourself to decrees, such as, “Do not handle, do not taste, do not touch!” (which all refer to things destined to perish with use)—in accordance with the commandments and teachings of men? These are matters which have, to be sure, the appearance of wisdom in self-made religion and self-abasement and severe treatment of the body, but are of no value against fleshly indulgence.’ (Col2:20-23)

 
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But nowhere in the Bible does it say masturbation is a sin


Matthew 5:28
But I say to you that everyone who
looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

lets make no mistake about it if your masterbating your lusting someone in your heart you are sinning



1 Corinthians 6:18 ESV / 7 helpful votes
Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.


Masturbation is a sin I don't see anyone who can masturbate with out lusting for someone,

Jesus can and will free people from this enslavement, he did for me 100% set me free not stumble not sometimes 100% set me free,,, it was not easy but through fasting and prayers he freed me, it took time, over a year if I remember correctly, and it went from a frequent thing to a less frequent thing to never thing. It is spiritual warfare and is Jesus alone who frees us from it, yet we have responsibility to do everything we can. I know others that suffered from sexual imorality such as looking at porn and again FASTING was what tool they used that God gives us to fight this battle.

No it is not alright to masturbate period end of story is it sin. I have never herd of anyone masturbating without lusting
 
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Matthew 5:28
But I say to you that everyone who
looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

lets make no mistake about it if your masterbating your lusting someone in your heart you are sinning


1 Corinthians 6:18 ESV / 7 helpful votes
Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.


Masturbation is a sin I don't see anyone who can masturbate with out lusting for someone,

Jesus can and will free people from this enslavement, he did for me 100% set me free not stumble not sometimes 100% set me free,,, it was not easy but through fasting and prayers he freed me, it took time, over a year if I remember correctly, and it went from a frequent thing to a less frequent thing to never thing. It is spiritual warfare and is Jesus alone who frees us from it, yet we have responsibility to do everything we can. I know others that suffered from sexual imorality such as looking at porn and again FASTING was what tool they used that God gives us to fight this battle.

No it is not alright to masturbate period end of story is it sin. I have never herd of anyone masturbating without lusting
I'm gonna take Daves advice as I feel guilty, and the bible tells us that our guilt is the holy spirit telling us we sinned. ("And when he is come, he will reprove the world of sin, and of righteousness, and of judgment") John16:8

I do a lot of things in private that I don't feel guilty about, however, masturbation is one that comes with guilt,

I asked this question because like a lot of other young men, i struggle with this and I wanted to rid myself of it.

God will provide me with a wife in due time and until then I feel I should wait and keep myself from sin
 
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Matthew 5:28
But I say to you that everyone who
looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

lets make no mistake about it if your masterbating your lusting someone in your heart you are sinning


1 Corinthians 6:18 ESV / 7 helpful votes
Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.


Masturbation is a sin I don't see anyone who can masturbate with out lusting for someone,

Jesus can and will free people from this enslavement, he did for me 100% set me free not stumble not sometimes 100% set me free,,, it was not easy but through fasting and prayers he freed me, it took time, over a year if I remember correctly, and it went from a frequent thing to a less frequent thing to never thing. It is spiritual warfare and is Jesus alone who frees us from it, yet we have responsibility to do everything we can. I know others that suffered from sexual imorality such as looking at porn and again FASTING was what tool they used that God gives us to fight this battle.

No it is not alright to masturbate period end of story is it sin. I have never herd of anyone masturbating without lusting
Our sex drive isn’t enslavment. It’s a God given desire like hunger for food. Only letting it go in a direction the Bible forbids is wrong or out of control is also wrong.

Did you even bother read all what I wrote about Matthew 5 or did you just baulk as soon as you saw I said masturbation isn’t a sin. Read it, and then if you still disagree show me Biblically where I am wrong, rather than just making unfounded assertions.

1 Cor 6:18 ‘Sexual immortality’ is the Greek word Pornia which means ‘harlotry (including adultery and incest); figuratively, idolatry -- fornication.’ No mention of masturbation, only sexual acts with persons outside of heterosexual marriage. See for yourself:

Show me where the Bible says masturbation is a sin?
 
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I'm gonna take Daves advice as I feel guilty, and the bible tells us that our guilt is the holy spirit telling us we sinned. ("And when he is come, he will reprove the world of sin, and of righteousness, and of judgment") John16:8

I do a lot of things in private that I don't feel guilty about, however, masturbation is one that comes with guilt,

I asked this question because like a lot of other young men, i struggle with this and I wanted to rid myself of it.

God will provide me with a wife in due time and until then I feel I should wait and keep myself from sin
I totally agree that we should keep ourselves from sin, that is important. Nowhere in the Bible does God forbid masturbation, so by masturbating till you find a wife your not sinning. The false guilt is from well intended Christians you look up to, saying incorrectly it’s sin. No one likes to be accused of sinning, even when the accuser is incorrect. It’s hard not to feel false guilt in those circumstances.

The desire for sexual release within you is driven by the testosterone from you testis which God created. I used to strongly believe masturbation was a sin and was desperately trying to give it up like yourself, till God unexpectedly showed me it wasn’t a sin, but not to do it excessively and over a number of years showed me what the truth on the matter is as far as what the Bible says. I don’t want you to waste years in an unnecessary battle against your God given sex-drive. When it can merely take up few minutes out of your day, leaving the bulk of your time and energy to focus on other more important things like studying your Bible, serving God, studying your schoolwork, etc.

Masturbation isn’t fornication because it requires two persons to become one flesh (1Cor6:16) and it’s not a homosexual act as Romans 1:27 says men went with other men (ie 2 persons) in an unnatural one flesh bound.

Read again through the Biblical definition of Lust in Matthew 5 I wrote previously. Pray to God about it, with an open mind to God without bias either way, ie pray “Dear God this crazy man on the internet says it’s not a sin, but I think it is a sin; but what do You God say? Show me.” If you have any other questions let me know?
 
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Here's a conundrum; Genesis 38:8-10 Then Judah said to Onan, "Lie with your brother's wife and fulfil your duty to her as a brother in law to produce offspring for your brother." But Onan knew that the offspring would not be his; so whenever he lay with his brothers wife, he spilled his semen on the ground to keep from producing offspring for his brother. What he did was wicked in the Lord's sight; so he put him to death also. The question is; what did the Lord deem as wicked? Was it not producing offspring for his brother? Was it disobedience to his father or was it spilling his semen on the ground? If it is the latter, then masturbation is a sin. In saying that, there is only one unforgivable sin and that isn't it.
 
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