We do share carpooling but thats not really the issue, its because she latches on to me when im busy with other things..she has no boundaries like the annoying cat wanting attention, jumping up on the table, when shes not supposed to. I already have a cat...also she isnt my only friend but when she wants something she cant let well enough alone until she has it. This rubs me the wrong way. I cant fufill all her needs. She is an adult, but still acts like a child. I know when I used to behave that way when I was younger and thought I didnt need to grow up, but being born again means God helped me to grow and take responsibilty..it seems like she never has. I had a mother who gave me mixed messages growing up, on one hand she wanted to keep me as a baby and on the other hand she couldnt wait to be rid of me. I think in her case, because she got so much attention being in the hospital due to a car accident when younger she milked it for all its worth. When you are coddled for being infirm all your life its seems like everything is about you. But she wont go to God first, thats the trouble. She will often say I prayed about this or that but only AFTER shes already made up her mind to go her own way. Its odd and I dont know how to handle it. She wont spend a cent on herself which is weird because that means to her mind she saves money...but it also means she relies on other people to pay for her. I thinking spending anything on herself she cant bring herself to do even when she has the money. She makes it appear that shes poor but shes not!