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Grumpy Christians?

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Just recently I have been convicted by the Holy Spirit about this one thing: reaching out to others; especially to those in the household of Faith. So in retaliation to the overwhelming apathy now-adays, I extended my arm out in the hopes of grasping another's.

I aqainted myself with a young man of seventeen I use to go to church with. We instantly loved talking to one another. But I found myself with this constant nagging that I should meet his parents and talk to them. I didn't know how or what to say if I did get the chance.

But God gave me the opportunity. The father of this young man began working for a couple of days at my work. He sat right beside me!!!

"What should I say to him?," I whispered excitedly with a bit of worry.

So I began talking to him and instantly found myself once again in the midst of a grumpy christian. He didn't show any hatred but his stern and annoyed expressions did. I talked to this man as if we had been friends for years--boldly loving him and telling him that I would pray for him really hard for anything he needed---of which I got little or none response.

That day, when he left and his son came in to work a little later, I got a terrible feeling. His son told me how utterly annoyed his father was. I asked him, "Was it something I said?". He replied, "No, I think it was just the fact that you talked too much. But don't worry, my dad is always grumpy. I mean he never smiles or anything," he said with a bit of anger.

Of course it hurt! I think tears came to my eyes that night. The reason was because I tried sooo hard to love someone with brotherly love as we are commanded to in the Bible.

The next day, I saw his father and with despair and sadness I didn't say a word. I felt horrible. I guess he began to sense something wrong and he tried asking me a few questions--perhaps out of guilt. But I hung my head and hindered myself from properly answering. He felt it--the sadness. I regretted it later. I said to myself, "I should have said something!"

I really didn't expect to have ever talked to him again. But the Lord heard my concerns for this man's spiritual well-being. The Lord gave me another chance. Once again, into work I came and worked right beside him. I didn't delay this time!!! I really didn't care what he thought of me---I couldn't allow myself to ignore this chance. I blurted out with care in my voice, " I'm sorry for last week. I was a bit down in the dumps." Surprisingly he replied cheerily, "Oh, that's OK, we all get that way at times."

I had an amazingly nice conversation with him. BUT....this time he was the one that couldn't stop talking and he encouraged me spiritually and emotionally. Now, I thought this was very odd. This guy's attitude changed right before my eyes. I knew why though....God!

I prayed earnestly for this man the night before. I prayed that this man might grow spiritually and that my words (few and pathetic as they were) might be used for God's Glory. God does answer prayer!!! Praise God!



Has anyone else encountered a "Grumpy Christian"?




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i know i myself can often fall into the trap of being one of these "grumpy Christians" and its something i know i need to pray about alot and really work on. i suppose at times tho (and im not making excuses, pls dont think that) it can be hard to be cheerful. There are always going to be low days... days when u dont feel great about urself, days when others annoy you and the like. Jesus never said life was going to be always happy. I also think that if we want to meet people on their level when witnessing we also have to understand that they arent really going to want to share with soeone who's always hapyp and always cheerful. i know i dont. i want someone who understands how i feel... someone real about emotions. not a happy-clappy chappy. i know i cant always be happy. but i know God can help me to be more receptive to others even when i do feel this way!!! Praise be to Him always!!!!
 
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As Christians we should not be grumpy. I am thankful for what God did for me. I thank God that I have a reason to live.
 
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i dont know any christians personally that are always grumpy. however, i have learned that Mathew Henry, the writer of probably the most famous commentary ever on the whole bible, had a very grumpy disposition. i agree that we shouldn't be grumpy as christians, but you can't judge whether someone is a good Christian or not based on their attitude. being grumpy and sharp with people is just another sin the some people struggle with. we all have them
 
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Even though we are Christians, we will not be truly happy on earth because it is not our home, heaven is. However, Jesus said:
(John 13:35 [ESV])
By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another. So whether we like it or not we got to:
(Matt 5:16 [ESV])
In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven. Because we live for God, and not for ourselves. It's hard, but keep the faith and:
(John 16:33 [ESV])
I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.

May we all have non-grumpy days, in Jesus name we pray.

Amen. :smile:
 
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I think instead of trying to change the person to be what WE think they should be, but into what Jesus wants them to be. Jesus has a much better idea of how people should be. He knows the intent of their hearts.

Who knows...they might have had a bad day...there might have been a crisis, a tragedy in their life. I like to try to give people the benefit of a doubt and not judge too harshly. We never know how one is until we walk in their shoes.

I will never understand someone else until I allow them to open up to me and let a part of them come out. I will not allow myself to think I have it all together when I don't. I let people know when I am having a not so great day, but I don't let it control me.

Instead of talking about these people, we should be praying for them and their situations. Be an encourager and build them up for tomorrow might be your day that they encourage and bless you.
 
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At times i feel as if I am just a slave, and i don't deserve what Christ has given me, which makes me not grumpy but just depressed. I have met some Christians that dont apply God's word in their lives but can rather say it. Which is the worst, I pray for them to know and live God to the fullest. But most importantly when we evangelize we are suppose to bring up our love, or Holy Spirit that is in us, and let it enlighten our conversations with the people that don't know who Christ is.

The main idea is when we talk about Christ we bring up his mercy and forgiveness Arrogance shouldn't be a problem, we are lightened with Christ! Let his word shine through us, we are suppose to eliminate our own nature and replace it with His, that's how we become one with Him.. God bless brother.
 
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So I began talking to him and instantly found myself once again in the midst of a grumpy christian. He didn't show any hatred but his stern and annoyed expressions did. I talked to this man as if we had been friends for years--boldly loving him and telling him that I would pray for him really hard for anything he needed---of which I got little or none response.

The next day, I saw his father and with despair and sadness I didn't say a word. I felt horrible. I guess he began to sense something wrong and he tried asking me a few questions--perhaps out of guilt. But I hung my head and hindered myself from properly answering. He felt it--the sadness. I regretted it later. I said to myself, "I should have said something!"

I really didn't expect to have ever talked to him again. But the Lord heard my concerns for this man's spiritual well-being. The Lord gave me another chance. Once again, into work I came and worked right beside him. I didn't delay this time!!! I really didn't care what he thought of me---I couldn't allow myself to ignore this chance. I blurted out with care in my voice, " I'm sorry for last week. I was a bit down in the dumps." Surprisingly he replied cheerily, "Oh, that's OK, we all get that way at times."

I had an amazingly nice conversation with him. BUT....this time he was the one that couldn't stop talking and he encouraged me spiritually and emotionally. Now, I thought this was very odd. This guy's attitude changed right before my eyes. I knew why though....God!

I prayed earnestly for this man the night before. I prayed that this man might grow spiritually and that my words (few and pathetic as they were) might be used for God's Glory. God does answer prayer!!! Praise God!
It doesn't have to be a christian. Some people are loving and caring but they are shy and don't like to meet new people. That may come across as being mean and grumpy though. If you just continue to talk with kind words I know you can get him to smile
 
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