Sometimes we ask amiss, and God says no...
Bring your asking into the realm of
"Your will be done Lord, not mine, for the Bibles says," I knows the plans I have for you, plans to help, and not to harm, plans to give you a hope, and a future.... NIV version I believe.
Seek his will, and in all your ways acknowledge him ,and he will direct your paths.
God word says so. Read it, and apply it to your life.
Getting to know him, I would think might be first on the agenda., and that comes from hearing the word of God.