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Commitment Phobia

Sleepy, this is not trival at all.
I don't think you are commitment phobic but I see God working in those situations. Let me ask you a few questions here.
1. Are either of these men born again Christians?
2. Are they using thier lives to serve Christ?
3. Are you wanting to serve Christ with your whole life?

Sleepy, I was not prepared to marry (let alone date) my husband if he was not a born again, active Christian, I would not have wasted my time. I gave my whole life to Christ and that means I will serve Him with my whole life. I did not want to be in a marriage where only one of us goes to Church and the other complains about going or just does not go. My life is not my own. It is only based on seeing his faith in action did I consider a relationship with him. Without that we had nothing to build a relationship on. Sleepy are you willing to settle for metorocraty, second best? Because if either of these men do not live a life serving God then that is what you are settling for and personally it is not worth it. I see too many Christian women who married their husband who do not believe and the struggles they go thru are tremendous. Read some of the post in the prayer requests.

Stop focusing on what you want with your life but only think about what He wants for you. God makes your life better not men. Tell God how you feel about wanting a relationship but then give it to Him to find you a mate, He will find someone better then you ever will.
Sleepy, The Word tells us not to be unequally yoked. That means you are to date and then marry only men who are morally and spiritually on the same level you are. In other words both of you should be given over to Christ. Your mind is on the men. Put your mind on spiritual things. Simply decide to follow Christ. Do what he would have you to do and this situation will solve itself. God is a reasonable person. He will not bring someone into your life unless God is first. Leave the situation at the foot of the cross and seek to please the Lord. I assure you if you do so your entire life will change.

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I hope the following Scripture may help you sister.

2 Corinthians 6:14

Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?

Romans 14:17-19

17For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking, but of righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Spirit, 18because anyone who serves Christ in this way is pleasing to God and approved by men.

19Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification.

I will pray for you tonight sister. I think its time you fast and spend time with GOD to study His heart. Learn His words more and just give your all to GOD. Put away self and make way for the Lord of Righteousness.
Thank you everyone

I read every response many times and intently. Thank you all for your time and help. Again my eyes are opened. I'm learning.

I do want a christian partner but see good in many, christian and non-christian, so find exclusivity difficult especially as I enjoy the company of many different souls. Although I do see the importance of my faith cannot be compromised by constant disagreement.

I think my relationship with God is in its infancy so I do need to grow further to be ready for a partner but worry I am incapable of achieving this. I see I need to try to draw closer to God. Thank you.
Thanks again for all prayer, scripture and sincere advice.

Praise Jesus

Love Sleepy
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Sleepy, God would not want you to be with someone who does not follow Him in a relationship so basically you are not recognizing it for a very good reason. Why settle for old stale bread when you can have homemade bread warm from the oven?
Focus on Him and He will make your paths straight. Prov.3:5-6
I wish you the best as you grow in Him.
I will keep returning here to focus

Thank you

my makers daughter, Chad, Shepherds grace and Angel's touch.

I will keep coming here to remind myself that my focus should be God. Your advice and help has given me a good shake up. It has really helped. I will re-read for some time yet and get moving forward instead of stressing so much.

Love in Christ :love: and a thousand thanks

Sleepy xxx
Sleepy . You are always in my prayers . God has healed you so much already ! :thumbs_up He will continue to be there for you always as will the TalkJesus family . :love: :boy_hug: Mike
Sleepy . You are always in my prayers . God has healed you so much already ! :thumbs_up He will continue to be there for you always as will the TalkJesus family . :love: :boy_hug: Mike


Thank you so much Brotherinarmst4g for reminding and reassuring me. I am so encouraged by all the care and warmth I find here even when I feel so undeserved.

God's Blessings :present:

Sleepy :sleep:

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