I`m also going to offer you some public counsel, because it is critical to you, and others reading this, whose lives also may be in ruins, to hear this.
When we call out to God to intervene, and change our lives, He surely does. God never ignores a cry for help from any man. You may be sure you are going under for the last time, and will tell me, no He has`nt heard me yet! Yes He has, you simply do not have eyes to see yet.
Now let me tell you a very truth about God. When we ask God to to step in change the circumstances that surround us, guess where He begins? He reaches down and pulls one stone out of the rubble, and on that stone is written a name. That stone is YOU. That is always where God begins to rebuild. It is His way. God changes our lives, by changing us.
Hold that thought, because you can`t move beyond this first step until you have done something. You need to surrender yourself to God. Surrender what you may ask, i`m here, i`m admitting I need help, i`m praying for help...? Yes, but none of those things spell surrender of self.
Men cry out to God for many different reasons, and in similar circumstances to yours, they may cry out to God for help only because they want to keep their wife, and then when they get what they want, they continue on their way, unchanged, and repeating the same old patterns of living until everything around them lays in ruins again.
Men also have the awful habit of blaming satan and everyone else for everything that goes wrong around them, like they played no role at all in the breakdown of their lives, like they never reacted badly, never spoke an unkind word, never got angry...
I`m in no way implying that you are entirely responsible for what has gone so wrong in your life, I do not know you or your story yet. But I do know one thing for sure, no man is entirely innocent either, and since you are the one who has come to God for help, it is with you Gods help must begin.
Do you really want to see change in your life? Then do this one thing, pray God to give you His Spirit, and keep praying until you know He has answered.
That is all, one simple humble and honest prayer. God won`t deny you that...but if you mean it with all your heart, get ready for a washing. :`)