Hi my names Catie I have two little girls my first child was born to just me I was a single mom for two years and she never met her biodad because he decided to leave the picture I was also just 19 at the time I am 22 now but my parents were really supportive and helped me out with a lot and basically helped me raise my child all this time. Then when my first daughter was about 2 1/2 I met my husband and told him that I would like it if he would adopt my child as his own and he agreed to that then we got married I also was pregnant while engaged and then had my second child with him. And just recently with life being so busy we finally have gone through an adoption process that they told me would take until this summer to be finalized if we are on top of things. I am just wondering for guidance and advice because my first daughter Ocean is 3 now and has never met her bio dad and I want to know if other people have done this gone through adoptions with their spouses and I really want to hide that she has been adopted but my husband and I always get in arguments over this it's overwhelming and stressful and he says that it would be sinning to lie to my daughter our daughter because I want to hide it until she is 20 that he isn't her real daddy because she calls him daddy and loves him to death and I don't want to crush her through the teen years having her say to him well your not my real dad I am not going to listen to you and I don't know I am also new to being married we will be married for just a year on March 12th please advice help someone tell me how and if they have gone through this I am so eager to hear advice because I want to do the right thing for Ocean my three year old and I don't want Pearl my 5 month old to grow up and think less of her sister also I don't know I am young and worry about everything and in school I don't want one of my daughters to get teased just because he's being a stubborn jerk help help help!!