No, I mean, "seek FIRST the kingdom of God . . . " You have to do it on purpose. It has to be pedominate in your life . . . it has to be a desire before any other desire, ya know? If you don't have that desire, and your desire is for a mate instead, then that is idolatry I think. I think you can pray and humble yourself to get that desire, because you should desire above all else, to worship Heavenly Father, and He has to be your all in all.
Does that make sense to you? God wants to be first. He's a jealous God, but in a good way. He desires for you to seek happiness in Him first, then the desires of your heart will be fulfilled. I've seen it happen in my life, and in many other lonely lives. But you have to discover it for yourself, my friend.