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I'd like to start a family. Unfortunately, I have never met a person who I would see a future with, marry, have kids with. I am focusing on my purpose at the moment. I am not chasing it. I am open to it God willing.

I wanted to date more. I learned about pickup. I lost my way for a while. I have seen the chaos in my life and the world. I understand the biblical stories more about evil and doing wrong.

I am seeing the divorce stats. I am seeing open cuckoldry. I saw a pastor pushing Poly. Everything is tinder or Netflix and chill. I hear how men and women talk about their hubby's or wife. It's appalling. I don't want to live on this planet anymore.

Seeing that isn't a option for the time being, I am focusing on the church and walking with God. I am a sinner. I would like to get right with God. I am doing my best.

I realize now, I can't do it alone. I need God's help. I recently met someone. It's super new. I'm not sure how to make anything out of it. I have seen a lot in my life. I can't unsee things.

I didn't see where else to put the thread. There's a YouTuber I follow. He's trying to seek a wife at forty after finding God. It's not going too well.

I'd like to meet at church but it's segregated. There's no young people. I learned to be social from pickup which I feel shame about but tinder sucks. My generation didn't introduce anybody. I don't meet women who believe in God but rather worship social media attention and ig. It's not a ideal way to vet a wife and mother. Furthermore, it is very promiscuous. I am not sure what to do nor how to proceed.

I recently met someone. I am proceeding to see where things go. Nobody dates anymore. The churches are frustrating at times because they push marriage so hard especially when there is serious red flags.

Walking with God is my path forward. I appreciate advice on how to best proceed in general. Thanks and God bless.
 
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Hi Full,

Welcome to TJ. I hope you enjoy yourself in here.

I'm looking at your post and I'm seeing a lot of negative there. Please try to cheer up, I still believe that there's more good in the world than bad. Jesus tells us to be beacons on a hill. That doesn't mean to walk around with an inane grin even in the face of adversity, sad emotions are OK when it's not OK but sadness at the state of the world shouldn't define our personalities. There's a lot of good things going on in the world that are not Christian based, some tremendous work by charities and people that really care about the planet. Christianity does not have a monopoly on good works, a reminder that we were all created in God's image.

My sadness about the good works done by unbelievers is that because it's not for God, it loses a vital point. But that's all the more reason we should encourage but at the same time witness.

Anyway, let's play a game, and take turns in thinking of reasons to be cheerful. I'll go first - The almighty God who can't even fit in Heaven because it's too small, took an immediate interest bordering on obsession, in your life from the moment of conception with a love and adoration that has absolutely no limits, not even the death of His own son, in order to keep, preserve and build you up, fit for Heaven and eternal life. Your turn :D

On dating, you seem to be dating a few girls but none have really lit your candle. What you seem to be saying is, 'God, your will be done, but just hurry up!!' Need I say more? lol.

Anyway, hope you have a lovely, lovely day, stuffed full of God's blessings.

Best wishes, Andy
 
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Greetings,

I would like to get right with God. I am doing my best.
the ONLY Way to 'get right with God' is to accept His best for you, Who is Jesus Christ His Son.
Do NOT rely on your best, for like us all, God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son... because our best was and never would be good enough to settle the account we had with Him... so that whosoever .... which includes you.... believes on Him should not perish but have eternal life. ( John 3:16 )

Jesus said,
Come unto Me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you, and learn of Me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.
Matthew 11:28-29


Bless you ....><>
 
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Greetings,



the ONLY Way to 'get right with God' is to accept His best for you, Who is Jesus Christ His Son.
Do NOT rely on your best, for like us all, God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son... because our best was and never would be good enough to settle the account we had with Him... so that whosoever .... which includes you.... believes on Him should not perish but have eternal life. ( John 3:16 )

Jesus said,
Come unto Me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you, and learn of Me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.
Matthew 11:28-29


Bless you ....><>
Thanks. I am planning to vet a wife. I just see a lot of people who are sleeping around, kids out of wedlock, and baby rabies at thirty after Chad's stop blowing up the phone.

I am a sinner. I have gone back to church. I want to meet someone there. Unfortunately, everyone is older. I met someone most recently but I have see so much.

I saw a pastor website push Poly. I am grossed out.
 
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Hi Full,

Welcome to TJ. I hope you enjoy yourself in here.

I'm looking at your post and I'm seeing a lot of negative there. Please try to cheer up, I still believe that there's more good in the world than bad. Jesus tells us to be beacons on a hill. That doesn't mean to walk around with an inane grin even in the face of adversity, sad emotions are OK when it's not OK but sadness at the state of the world shouldn't define our personalities. There's a lot of good things going on in the world that are not Christian based, some tremendous work by charities and people that really care about the planet. Christianity does not have a monopoly on good works, a reminder that we were all created in God's image.

My sadness about the good works done by unbelievers is that because it's not for God, it loses a vital point. But that's all the more reason we should encourage but at the same time witness.

Anyway, let's play a game, and take turns in thinking of reasons to be cheerful. I'll go first - The almighty God who can't even fit in Heaven because it's too small, took an immediate interest bordering on obsession, in your life from the moment of conception with a love and adoration that has absolutely no limits, not even the death of His own son, in order to keep, preserve and build you up, fit for Heaven and eternal life. Your turn :D

On dating, you seem to be dating a few girls but none have really lit your candle. What you seem to be saying is, 'God, your will be done, but just hurry up!!' Need I say more? lol.

Anyway, hope you have a lovely, lovely day, stuffed full of God's blessings.

Best wishes, Andy
Thanks for the help and message.

I lost lots of family. I got angry with God. I never stopped believing. I am at a point of surrender. I am not perfect but working on it.

I don't like the culture. It is degenerate and many churches are pandering to it. I saw a pastor promote Poly. I don't want to live on this planet anymore.

I waa brought up in the nuclear family. Parents. Marriage. My mom, dad, sister, me. Sadly, many gave gone on. I lost them young. I would gladly trade places but that's not how it works nor God's plan.

I always wanted a family, wife, and kids. I dated a bit in my teens but I saw girls getting banged out by Chad's and Tyrone. I saw my high school crush become a single mom. I saw what I was taught and I was short of road kill in dating world so, I was tempted by game and pickup.

I get it now. I learned game, how to approach, and pull. It is still hollow because it's explosive clawing off each others clothes and sex but nothing long term. I don't want divorce nor being a single father or a old father with a baby.

I feel shame for pickup and learning game but I hated being the guy women will resort to after running through the bad boys or looked at when pushing thirty. Baby rabies. More annoying a lot of churches guilt trip guys to hurry up and marry her. I get annoyed when such type of girls come around. I rather be alone.


The Bible warned about evil, debauchery, and degenerate lifestyle. It is all there. I am moving to walk with God. I am going to church. I am praying. I am watching and following God. I am frustrated with the culture or churches that warp gospel to pander towards whichever way the wind blows.

God first. I have done all I can to settledown. I tried my way. It is in God's hands now. I did meet someone special but it's not my first rodeo. I don't hold my breathe. I will pursue. Leave the rest to God.

Given all I have done and seen, I am far removed from settling down. I don't know if I can do it. I do want to be a father, get married, and have a family. Walk with God. I just know what divorce stats look like or more accurately, divorce based on gender.

I pray for guidance. I surrender.
 
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Hi Full,

Thanks for the reply, appreciated. Can I share with you a verse?

Seek the Lord while he may be found; call on him while he is near. Let the wicked forsake their ways and the unrighteous their thoughts. Let them turn to the Lord , and he will have mercy on them, and to our God, for he will freely pardon. Isaiah 55:6‭-‬7 NIV

Please don't worry about people in your periphery and what they might be getting up to, their problem, not yours. Those in your immediate circle are more your problem in that we should all feel duty bound to share the good news of the Gospel. Then you've done your bit, planted the seed, then it's up to them.

Try to steer your focus away from the past which seems to have so many upsets, rather focus upon that one true love in your life, God. He is the key to your happiness, get down and worship Him.

The girl you're seeing seems sweet but she's not for you. You don't exactly seem smitten. Wait on the Lord but in the meantime make His job easier by expanding your circle by visiting social events in other churches, maybe Christian holidays but rather than looking for a date look to strike up friendships with both sexes and eventually one will come along that'll really click.

Best wishes,


Andy
 
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Hi Full,

Thanks for the reply, appreciated. Can I share with you a verse?

Seek the Lord while he may be found; call on him while he is near. Let the wicked forsake their ways and the unrighteous their thoughts. Let them turn to the Lord , and he will have mercy on them, and to our God, for he will freely pardon. Isaiah 55:6‭-‬7 NIV

Please don't worry about people in your periphery and what they might be getting up to, their problem, not yours. Those in your immediate circle are more your problem in that we should all feel duty bound to share the good news of the Gospel. Then you've done your bit, planted the seed, then it's up to them.

Try to steer your focus away from the past which seems to have so many upsets, rather focus upon that one true love in your life, God. He is the key to your happiness, get down and worship Him.

The girl you're seeing seems sweet but she's not for you. You don't exactly seem smitten. Wait on the Lord but in the meantime make His job easier by expanding your circle by visiting social events in other churches, maybe Christian holidays but rather than looking for a date look to strike up friendships with both sexes and eventually one will come along that'll really click.

Best wishes,


Andy
The new girl is sweet. She believes in God. Whether or not she's single and available, only time will tell. Again, not my first rodeo. One of the awkward situations with learning about game is infidelity or unavailable women coming. I don't want that.

I am meditating on Psalms "be still and know I am God."

I actually heard gospel randomly alone. I spoke with my priest and a close friend. I am either crazy lol or a test is coming. I pray for strength and guidance.

I have been fasting for lent. Intermittent fasting. I also sacrificed several other things starting with food. My body is my temple.


Andy mate, the scary thing about game and learning about true desire is that, it's not transactional nor negotiable. A fear is marriage and getting cut off by my wife. I know many married men who are and resort to porn. This is unacceptable and as a bachelor or married man, I know my worth, and it wouldn't end up well.


One of the most important things I learned is, when I engaged in said behaviour, I harm others and my soul. The Bible warned about the following.

It's like seeing the man behind the curtains. The wizard is a phony. It's hard to say what next?

You're in church or a grocery store or football stadium. Someone stands out. It glistens. Sparkle sparkle. Something shines. More often than not, it's list but I won't forgive myself for not going for it. She seems good and believes in God. She goes to a different church with her mom. She is young. I thought she feel out of heaven. <3

I never wanted pickup or game. I wanted a gf and a family. A wife. Kids. I felt it in my breathe. I want.

I am learning to do my part and leave the rest to God. I don't want to die alone but hooking up is futile. So was being a bench warmer waiting for women to pick me.

I hate apps. I finally met a woman who believes in God, is cute and young. My only focus is to double down on my faith. Leave it To the big guy upstairs. Do my part.

Are you married? Do you have kids?
 
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One thing for sure, be careful, out there, now days, they wear war paint, and gone high tech and they are hunting for you. Some of them church women, if you marry one them, they will have you “speaking in tongues” if you ain’t doing it now. And if you are not saved, you will get “saved”! And if Jesus ain’t your friend He will become your friend, your only friend!
“Marriage is not to be taken lightly”. Two imperfect people are coming together who are sinners! Not realizing. It, and each one flaws are about to be stirred up! The Holy Spirit is there also there to show each one and stir each one’s imperfect-ness! But most people will not address their sins but point the others out! And everything is against you in this world. You better listen to Paul!
 
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One thing for sure, be careful, out there, now days, they wear war paint, and gone high tech and they are hunting for you. Some of them church women, if you marry one them, they will have you “speaking in tongues” if you ain’t doing it now. And if you are not saved, you will get “saved”! And if Jesus ain’t your friend He will become your friend, your only friend!
“Marriage is not to be taken lightly”. Two imperfect people are coming together who are sinners! Not realizing. It, and each one flaws are about to be stirred up! The Holy Spirit is there also there to show each one and stir each one’s imperfect-ness! But most people will not address their sins but point the others out! And everything is against you in this world. You better listen to Paul!
Thanks for the message.

I got red pilled in the journey. One of the most savage elements in dating is acknowledgement that, if rich, better looking, social status or lack thereof affects your outcomes. Learning game taught me that valuable elements of self worth.

Loss of family and poverty has hit me young. It affected everything from my self concept, education, dating, and lifestyle among other things. I am planning to make changes but I don't know where to start. I am making a decision to move forward with my life and walk with God. I am uncertain of what I am going to do next.

I dislike the way people are altering gospel. Poly being pushed to the church and the moving goal post of false accusations or metoo. It is crazy. I am aware of the fact that genuine desire is non transactional. There's no fence sitting.

People may deny God but everyone worships something. Today dating is a mess. It is not shocking, men are lost. The world wants to demonize men and masculinity. It is gross.
 
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I have been busying myself. I have been watching online sermons. The girl I was seeing, i stopped during pandemic but, I have shifted my attention to a different girl. The other girl is strong in faith with God. She always asks me if i am ok in pandemic. She tells me that she is praying for me. The other girl never said anything about praying or asks me about anything related to my well being. I sort of ghosted. I have directed all attention to the other girl who is invested in me.

I have been exercising from home. I pray and i run. I have been meditating and doing breathing techniques. Its the wim Hoff technique and its great to given the virus.

I am in a very toxic environment and I pray for change. Sadly, I am seeking help from God to guide me. Please pray for me. I gaze back and wonder what I am doing sometimes.

How does someone reference a toxic environment? I cant omit it when I have been working over a year somewhere. The reference I'd use are no longer in the process of use. I looked up and then I remembered God lol.

Tonight I wondered, how can I get a reference and i got a message. God is good.

I love the process and I am learning to enjoy it. I get wrecked when I battle it. Bless!
 
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