OP: "I'm new to this ... and have no clue how to use this but here goes,
I'm 21 yes old and can not understand why I can't feel connected to God. I want to love him, I want his praise on my lips, and I really do want a true relationship with him. But it's very difficult because on the other end, I want to go out, hang with friends , date etc. But I feel like I'm on a marry go round.. SOMEBODY PLEASE HELP ME"
Relationships take time, and we actually hinder our relationship with God when we won't let go of worldly things. Can't have both. It is kinda like being married in the sense that there are restrictions placed on you because of the law/agreement involved in your marriage. You can hang out with friends and even date, you just have to watch the temptation and sinning that comes with it sometimes. If the people you date or the friends you hang out with choose to do things that you know will separate you from God you will have to make the choice to let it happen or not. I have found that the closer I stay to God, through keeping Him on my mind in prayer and reading the Bible, the less I think about worldly things. It's like they cannot coexist together.
I would like to add that I do not believe a person can keep sin out of their lives by themselves, you must rely on God when temptation comes your way or you'll end up right back in your life of sin where you started. It is impossible for the flesh to be obedient to God and that is why we must walk in the Spirit, staying close to God and keeping Him on our minds at all costs. Things that are impossible for the flesh are possible in the Spirit, but you must continue to choose to walk in the Spirit every day. Like someone else in the thread has already said, it does seem to get easier after a while.
"Also , why is it that so many ppl follow Christ and claim to love him but they're still alone, doesn't say that it is not good for man to be alone... than any are they????"
God decided that it wasn't good for Adam to be alone and created Eve, but Paul tells us in I Corinthians 7 that if a person has the right amount of self control that it is better to be alone because having a spouse gives Satan another way into your life through another person that you are now bound to. I'm sure that having a spouse has its advantages too, because there are two of you, but when two married people don't act as a team they can pretty easily become a burden to one another in Christ as well as this life. Make sense? So, there is no "rule" saying that people are supposed to be married.
Hope I was able to help you, at least, a little. Peace be unto you.