Hello. I've been married to my best friend for almost 3 years and I'm absolutely miserable. For me to end up being miserable, didn't happen overnight, I believe it slowly began to happen. Being miserable is incredibly painful; I don't want to get a separation or divorce. Here are some of the thoughts in my head right now and I just want to be plain and simple writing this. I feel after when I come home from work, the atmosphere in the house is not very inviting. I find often there is more criticism than encouragement from my wife. I need some time to unwind, and recharge my batteries after work, but my wife constantly interrupts and demands time with her. I feel that if I don't unwind and spend time alone, my time with her will not be quality time. I get so angry in the house, most of the time not really knowing why it starts or how it started. I get so cold towards my wife. The cold shoulder, not wanting to talk, and spend time with her. I just want to be left alone. I find a lot of the times coming home from work, the house is a mess, and with me and my personality, I feel guilty not cleaning it up. I don't know how to approach my wife on issues of the house being a mess and other issues, as very little things often shut her down. We do not read the Bible together, pray together, and pray for each other. I've tried to lead in this area, but she refuses me to lead. We do not have sex often, perhaps its only once a week, if even that. The passion we once had for each other in our younger years married, has slowly faded away. It seems life together is more like a transaction than a relationship. It seems we are more like roommates, than friends and lovers. I do not like being at home with my wife, and sometimes not even around her and will find ways to spend most of my time at work or away from my wife. I pray everyday for my wife and our marriage together, but its just so painful. I know I struggle with sins of my own and I'm not perfect either. I do my best to be the best husband I can, but I get discouraged easily. Another thing: There are very godly women I work with and their godliness is very attractive. My friendships with them are excellent. We have lots of chats about God and life, which rarely happens with my wife and I. They treat me with respect and they appreciate me. The women I work with are more attractive than my wife physically and spiritually. There are strong temptations to cheat on my wife since our marriage is miserable, but with sincere honesty I do not want to cheat. Some thoughts I have sometimes, is why are my friendships with these women so strong, and yet with my wife its so weak. Is there hope for our marriage? Will this pain ever stop? Is there things I can do to turn this marriage around?