please join the social group for maintaining purity. =) be encourage and help encourage!

It is really great to see these kinds of posts. My husband grew up with his mother and sister and he was homeschooled from 4th-12th grades. In public school, I got a sex education through health class. Teens do NOT need that from their schools (that hand out condoms and who knows what else), but from their parents! Just a thought.

Also, I waited mostly...I married at 23. It is hard, but with people encouraging you to be pure and to wait. I didn't kiss my husband on the lips until our wedding day (it helped tons with the pressure, etc). Set limits...standards and stick to them! If a guy or girl isn't going to stick to the standard, they aren't worth your time. They don't respect you!

Some advice from an 'old' married woman ;-)

great post! thank you for sharing this to us. Mind opening and a great encouragement for everyone to wait IN GOD'S PERFECT TIME....... God bless to all!

nice giggles... i love that no kiss on lips before marriage, i pray for a realtionship like that too... im so happy for you sister. =) btw, i just received ur letter! it made my day! lotsa love! -jhen

Thank you very much rizen1, this thread is very accurate, even non christians would agree that sex creates a strong bond and connection that is very harmful for the unmarried couple to share it could hurt and confuze them very much, God warns us for our own good, because we'll get emotionally attached one way or another.

Anything beyond light kissing, hugs and holding hands could be destructive.(you even should wait a long time before doing these)

Here is a good reason for celibacy outside of marriage - There is no such thing as a 100% foolproof birth control device.No man-made product is defect-proof. No matter how well designed the product, no matter how "perfect" the manufacturing process seems to be, there is ALWAYS the possibility that the product you are depending upon for "safe sex" at any given time is not safe.

SLE

Nice post. :] Makes me wish I would've waited. I mean, I'm not a Christian, but still, it's a pretty great thing to be able to say to your husband on your wedding night that you waited so long just for him. Too bad some of us will have to say that complete opposite. :[

Ashley,

The dictionary lists two definitions of virginity, the first of which is never having had sexual intercourse. The second definition - equally important as the first because it involves an act of the will - is abstinence from intercourse. Therefore, if a person who has been active sexually willfully abstains from such activity, he/she also qualifies as a virgin starting with the day the abstinence begins.

SLE

I dont doubt sex before marriage can be dangerous, but is it really wrong? I am not here to stir things up and i know i am walking on thin ice with this but please hear me. A great theologian you may well know, C.S. Lewis, said " Sex in itself cannot be moral or immoral. The sexual behavior of human beings can. And the sexual act, when lawful-which means chiefly consistant with good faith, can be done to the glory of God, and will then be holy. " My point with this comes down to the motive. I understand that sex encouraged by lust is completely sinful and can never be justified. But if two people are in love and marriage is not appropriate for their situation, is it wrong for them to give themselves to each other? That is, is it really wrong for two people to have sex if the motive is not sin based?