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    Please, I SOOO need some help...

    Hi,

    I recently lost the love of my life. It's been about 5 weeks now and it still hurts so bad. We had a great relationship and connected at a level I've never experienced. We were planning on getting married but it all fell apart when she decided that she was being led by the Spirit to end the relationship. (Its odd that she came to this decision after a Christian counselor and I were pressing her to confront her issues with her divorce.) She still texts me every day and yesterday she told me she had met someone else...IT'S ONLY BEEN 5 WEEKS!!!

    I still pray that we will reconcile, and I'm in His Word and praying constantly. I don't understand why this would be His will!!! Last year, we sat and made vows to each other in front of Him and prayed with each other. We broke bread and drank wine to remember His sacrifice. Jesus said that vows we make on earth will be honored in heaven. Why would He lead her away then?

    I'm so lost and confused. I find myself begging Him to come NOW!!! I need to be raptured NOW!!! That's the only way I can go on!!!

    Please pray for me. And please pray for her - to confront her issues and deal with her divorce properly and see our relationship as something that is worth fighting for. The peace she says she feels in her decision can't be from God - He wouldn't lead her to break promises and vows.

    Thank you guys so much....

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    I am praying for God have His will with both you and her. He always knows why, even when we do not. He is always able to help even when we haven't got a clue.

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    We MUST know ? HE knows best ! I know it hard when we think we know best ! But He has taught me , He Always knows best!
    He sees the future , we do not !
    We must put our faith in HIm , not our thinking ! Praise HIm worship HIm , Give HIM glory ! Then HE will reveal all to you ! I know what it is too be rejected ! Thank GOD you did not have kids ! They really suffer in these break ups ! We do to of course ! But it worse when we see them suffering !

    The Question becomes ? Do we believe HIM ? Rom_8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

    He LOVES US more than we LOVE ourselves ! Believe that !

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    Joy,light,life,peace and strength to you in Christ.
    You are a soldier of life and your user name suggests you already posses the necessary weapon to
    to overcome every enemy.

    Since you are a dad you have got to focus on getting your joy and strength back because there are eyes on you.
    I pray the Lord lead you and guide you into the all encompassing knowledge of his glory.
    Also that he send you medics to restore your joy and strength.

    John 15:11 These things have I spoken unto you, that my joy might remain in you, and that your joy might be full.

    John 17:26 “And I have revealed to them your Name, and I am revealing it, so that the love with which you have loved me shall be in them, and I shall be in them.”

    Thank you Father revealing your name,your love,your joy,and your glory to each and every person connected to or affected by this situation.
    I know Father that it is always your will that they walk in your Spirit and that you live in them and that the love you have for Jesus lives in them and that thier joy be full, so I thank you that you began that good work in them and you are faithful to bring it to completion..
    These things I ask in the name and divine plan of Jesus Christ.
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    What was her issue with divorce?
    Do not look to dead things for life. Seek the Spirit while it may yet be found.

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    I read your post and then your profile. Seldom does the husband really understand how serious issues are, and he thinks that all of a sudden from no where the wife is asking for a divorce. Generally most husbands act clueless as tho why their wife has filed for divorce. By the time he really thinks about it he may have a vague idea why she has left, by then the divorce is done and is over. What I have just described is sadly what happens a lot of times.

    Often women will describe how they "feel" and a men will use "think", generally men take real effort to shift gears from thinking to get in touch with their feelings. If a husband has ignore the wife and her feelings, and this has gone on a good number of years, it may bee to late. Unless a man can begin to see his faults, and not blame the wife for all their problems, it becomes a up hill battle with little hope.

    Unless the Husband surrenders to Christ and becomes a follower of Jesus and treats his wife as a equal partner in a covenant marriage, I see almost no hope. But is the husband has a deep change in his soul, there is great hope of renewal of the marriage. I encourage you to go to a Christian counselor, or your pastor, if he is qualified.

    Now here is something I am sure will help. Get the movie FIRE PROOF, and the Boof LOVE DARE. Then read 1 PETER, 2PETER, and 3 PETER. I sincerely believe there is hope for your marriage IF you put forth the effort to reach out to your wife, and you take the steps I have told you about. May God bless and heal you and her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RelyingOnHim View Post
    Hi,

    I recently lost the love of my life. It's been about 5 weeks now and it still hurts so bad. We had a great relationship and connected at a level I've never experienced. We were planning on getting married but it all fell apart when she decided that she was being led by the Spirit to end the relationship. (Its odd that she came to this decision after a Christian counselor and I were pressing her to confront her issues with her divorce.) She still texts me every day and yesterday she told me she had met someone else...IT'S ONLY BEEN 5 WEEKS!!!

    I still pray that we will reconcile, and I'm in His Word and praying constantly. I don't understand why this would be His will!!! Last year, we sat and made vows to each other in front of Him and prayed with each other. We broke bread and drank wine to remember His sacrifice. Jesus said that vows we make on earth will be honored in heaven. Why would He lead her away then?

    I'm so lost and confused. I find myself begging Him to come NOW!!! I need to be raptured NOW!!! That's the only way I can go on!!!

    Please pray for me. And please pray for her - to confront her issues and deal with her divorce properly and see our relationship as something that is worth fighting for. The peace she says she feels in her decision can't be from God - He wouldn't lead her to break promises and vows.

    Thank you guys so much....
    You are a Christian. If you are praying for God's will in your life, He may have have answered your prayer. How great would the pain be if it were two years from now and she was pregnant when she left.

    God may have plans for you for which a formerly divorced wife would disqualify you.

    Give God your broken heart and tell him your will Lord over and over and over and cry your heart out, but mean it. I Did when I was young.

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    H everyone,
    Thank you for your words of encouragement and prayers. They are greatly appreciated.

    A little more background. We were engaged last spring but ended it because we realized that we needed to work on things. We stayed together and started seeing a christian counselor, which helped alot. In December, she really wanted to get engaged again, so we did. Things were great.

    Her issues: she was divorced because her husband decided he was gay. Also, her husband has 2 sisters - both are also gay....along with her best friend. Since she had no family left, she bonded deeply wirh his family. When her mother in law was dying, she promised her that she would always have sunday dinner for her father in law. Several years after that, her husband came out and left for another man. To this day, they still have sunday dinner, her ex comes over whith his partner. She hugs him every time they get together. At the kids events, its not that we're there and he's there but we have to sit with him and talk with him. He's at the house every holiday and event.I often expressed a problem with this but she always convinced me I was being unrealistic. We then talked about it with the counselor and the counselor said that she needed to tell the ex no more sunday dinners. A week later she said that she couldnt do it because she was afraid it would hurt the kids. She knew that she had an issue and was very upset about possibly loosing the relationship. A week later,she said that she felt that God didnt want her in this relationship, handed the ring back,and didnt even shed a tear. She said that she just had a peace about it.

    That was 5 weeks ago. Now she says that she's just wants to follow God, she doesnt thing we were meant to be together because we pull each other away from God (huh?), oh and she met someone new.
    Im confused and have no idea what God wants from me or why He let this happen.

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    I know it sounds a bit Harsh ? But we need to trust in Him and ASK the Holy GHOST to lead US !

    Just try to get closer to the LORD , so you can hear HIM WELL! Then He will reveal what He has for you !

    Fasting is a Good thing to do !

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    Quote Originally Posted by RelyingOnHim View Post
    Hi,

    I recently lost the love of my life. It's been about 5 weeks now and it still hurts so bad. We had a great relationship and connected at a level I've never experienced. We were planning on getting married but it all fell apart when she decided that she was being led by the Spirit to end the relationship. (Its odd that she came to this decision after a Christian counselor and I were pressing her to confront her issues with her divorce.) She still texts me every day and yesterday she told me she had met someone else...IT'S ONLY BEEN 5 WEEKS!!!

    I still pray that we will reconcile, and I'm in His Word and praying constantly. I don't understand why this would be His will!!! Last year, we sat and made vows to each other in front of Him and prayed with each other. We broke bread and drank wine to remember His sacrifice. Jesus said that vows we make on earth will be honored in heaven. Why would He lead her away then?

    I'm so lost and confused. I find myself begging Him to come NOW!!! I need to be raptured NOW!!! That's the only way I can go on!!!

    Please pray for me. And please pray for her - to confront her issues and deal with her divorce properly and see our relationship as something that is worth fighting for. The peace she says she feels in her decision can't be from God - He wouldn't lead her to break promises and vows.

    Thank you guys so much....
    I am sorry for your pain. My feeling is tha tshe met that "someone else" before she asked for the breakup.
    Psa 62:5 My soul, wait thou only upon God; for my expectation is from him.

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