Hi everyone
Going through a bit of a bind here trying to help a dear friend of mine out. The story goes such as this.

My friend is a Christian who is in a relationship with a non believer. She's someone whose been raised in the church and believes in Sex after marriage and all this things, and she's a great person. But then she "met" this guy and hes a non-believer but he of course respects her beliefs and such.

Now there relationship is getting serious and she's struggling between trying to keep him i guess "happy" for lack of a better word and i think this might be putting her faith and beliefs in a bit of a turmoil. She knows wrong from right because she is already a grown woman but she believes this man is the one for her and she wants to do whatever it takes to keep her relationship with him at the same time keeping her faith from harms way.

In my opinion hes is not a bad guy and i think she's happier then she's ever been in a long time but her problem is how to set the boundaries on the things she can allow in this relationship without coming out seeming "odd" or uncaring because they really care about each other.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

Thanks for your time.

Your friend has much bigger troubles than trying to keep a unbelieving boyfriend happy.


<< 2 Corinthians 6 >>
King James Version
14Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? 15And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? 16And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. 17 Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you, 18 And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty.

The deal was to come out from among them not get mixed up with them. One day your friend will have to come before God and make an account of why she does what she does. God said, believers only unless you were married to an unbeliever when you converted. But if your friend understood this she never would have fell for an unbeliever. She has much bigger problems than male female relations.

In Christ,

Gary

In cases such as this we need to as Believers, be equally yoked together with someone of the same Faith.

Thanks for the bible verses...but um that doesn't exactly help my friend out much...

It would if she would obey it.

Hmm that's the advice? I've already done that lol she knows the bible verses and it's not like you "choose" who to fall in love with...so she's suppose to break up with this guy??

That is a big problem with today's relationships, they are based on affection and not real love. And yes she should get away as fast as she can and recommit herself to Christ, to whom she is in disobedience to by her courting this nonbeliever. She ought to make sure that he knows that that is the specific reason she is leaving the relationship (repenting of the sin she is in by being in it).

That was my advice before and she did..she broke off the relationship and went into depression for some time...so should i tell her that again? So what is real love in your opinion? If i may ask.

Real love is self sacrificial love that seeks what is best for another over self. We tend to look for things in another that will satisfy our desires when seeking out a mate. Most begin with attractiveness. Then move into does he/she make me feel good. Then on to common interests. Always seeking to find someone to be happy with and share love and joy together. Which all sounds fine and dandy but it is a fairy tale based in the flesh. Real love would get its act together before anything else. It would prepare itself for the one whom they are going to serve for the rest of their lives. Real love would be real with Christ before attempting anything with anyone knowing that without Christ in themselves they have absolutely nothing worthy to offer any one else and would only be bringing problems into any relationship they could have. Real love is a 1 Cor 13 person who is prepared and ready to serve their mate when God presents the right one but is busy serving God with all of themselves while they wait.

Hmm let's see...My friend is far away from her mother (taken away when she was a child hmm about 9 i believe). Does not speak to her biological father and does not feel the connection a child has with her biological mother.
Hmm she's always being criticized. Always held on to her faith when she has a hard time with the world. Was losing hope when she started talking to this guy.
She never met him actually. She ended the relationship when she realized she might have found someone who actually cared about her but did not have the same faith as her. She did her best to look elsewhere but living in this day and age when the world says this and that and even your family turns on you gets her down.
Of course we all have to remember God is there and where not alone but she feels reassured that God is there because she has met someone who she never thought existed.
Now in my opinion i'd say this guy is not a top model but yeah maybe because he "cares" satisfies her "desire" (whatever that desire might be). I know for sure she wasn't seeking out a mate. As a matter of fact this is an online relationship from a long distance and they've never met in life before and she's someone whose serious about her studies...I don't want to lose my friend...anything else that would help?