Originally Posted by Girl

Well, Ive never been caught up in this world of dating. Ive never been, and still am not very interested.

22 is not too old... Its actually a fairly mature age to start. And seriously i doubt we are missing out. Honestly.... When your young and immature and dating, it can be a real mess. And "hah" bright side... you’ve never had to deal with a messy break-up. A broken heart! All those dating dilemmas..

Why do you feel like you need someone?? NEED? Strong use of a word...
You could pray, and pray and pity yourself cause you feel...oh, so lonely. But God isnt going to bring the girl of your dreams to your doorstep. Its not going to be THAT easy.

So i'll tell you what you should do?? Just go out there and talk to people. If you find that you share alot in common with a girl, then ask them out. Be prepared for rejection... And dont take it so personally. It can happen.. And usually, its not really about you... Girls can have other reasons for not being wanting a date..

And no. 1 !!! Get to know the girl before you ask her out..

Great advice! The spirit used you tonight. You said what i need to hear from God. God Bless you and keep in your ways sister!

"Girl", you have wisdom beyond your years. You posted a great message. May I just add one thought: relationships do not heal self-respect issues. As my 12-step program friends say. "If you don't like yourself when you're alone, you won't like yourself when you're with somebody."

SLE

Well, I'm 19, not quite 22, but close enough to know what you are talking about. I tell myself all the time not to focus on the fact that I am alone, but to focus on the fact that God has one person out there for me, and right now, it's me and God time. To get and keep things straight. How can God trust us with a big thing like "a b/f or g/f (and I say those words roughly) or husband" unless He can trust us with the small things "our relationship with Him".

You know it does make sense to me that maybe God is preparing us for out future mate by how we treat our relationship with Him. He knows who we are supposed to marry, and He wants us to be ready, so if we can't keep a steady relationship with Him and be faithful and devoted to Jesus in every way (praying, reading, worshiping, etc.) then He knows we arent' ready for another relationship to try to handle.
He just wants us to be ready for each other for our own good, and it's a good thing to not have anyone tie you down at such a young age, because this is when God wants us the most. When we are feeling lonely, and have no one we can love on.

God is awesome, and it shouldn't matter how long it takes, just know that there is someone out there for you, and never settle for less then what God has for you. That means, don't go out there and find just some random person because that's what you can get RIGHT NOW, wait. God has someone very very important for you, and it's better to wait for it, then to never know it at all because you were impatient.

I wish you all the blessings in the world, and just remember not to settle for less than what God has for you. God revealed that to me here recently, and it has helped me sooo much, and I hope it helps you to.

Sis in Christ
Lnrobar

I'm on the same level dude i had a real girl friend and at the moment still dont have,but that dont get me down cause i know when its the right time he will give me a princess


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my brother wait on the lord and he will never let u down

Originally Posted by Conqueror1

I'm 22 male Never dated anyone Am I missing out? When I got save I had no problem of not dating but know I feel like a need someone. I believe I have matured enough in my work with God. I've been prayin for like a year know. I'm starting to be desperate what must I do?

In a nutshell....Yes.....you are missing out. Read Proiverbs 31 v 10 - end.

The bible also says "he that findeth a wife findeth a good thing" Sorry I cannot give you the scripture ref. at the moment, but it is there.

Also, always treat your lady like a lady. With due respect at all times......what-ever.

Conqueror1,
I hurt for you. But to encourage you, the Lord does have someone specific picked out for you. Trust Him, totally and completely and you will be surprised by what He will bring you. I have a friend who just got married in February. She was 34 and a virgin, (yes, a virgin, they are out there). She waited a long time, but it was worth it for her. I saw her go through some waiting pains, but it was the most beautiful wedding ever. I had the sweet privilege of being her matron of honor. Whatever you do, DON'T GIVE UP.

Psalms 37:4-5 Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Commit thy way unto the LORD; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.

Why is it that the single life has gone out of style, that the single & celibate person is seen as a dinosaur? The single & celibate life is THE life that God has appointed for some people, a life that He blesses. Why don't single & celibate people see their lives the way God sees them;as lives that can be focused on honoring and serving Him and thus be honored by Him?

While I don't wish to insult anyone, I mut say that this thread is evidence that the desires of the flesh have invaded the church and edged relationship with God out of first place in many peoples' lives.

"Seek FIRST the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things (things you truly need) will be given to you as well." (Mt 6:33)






SLE

Originally Posted by Conqueror1

I'm 22 male Never dated anyone Am I missing out? When I got save I had no problem of not dating but know I feel like a need someone. I believe I have matured enough in my work with God. I've been prayin for like a year know. I'm starting to be desperate what must I do?

Just get your career and life on track, be who you want to be !
I am in the same situation and theres nothing wrong with it get ambitious !

U have to put your priorities in order u first have to make up your mind on what u want in life and work towards it.If while working on trying to achieve what

u want in life u can go dating then good will grant u ur wish.




Put god in every situation and he will fullfill ur disires

Originally Posted by SpiritLedEd

Why is it that the single life has gone out of style, that the single & celibate person is seen as a dinosaur? The single & celibate life is THE life that God has appointed for some people, a life that He blesses. Why don't single & celibate people see their lives the way God sees them;as lives that can be focused on honoring and serving Him and thus be honored by Him?

While I don't wish to insult anyone, I mut say that this thread is evidence that the desires of the flesh have invaded the church and edged relationship with God out of first place in many peoples' lives.

"Seek FIRST the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things (things you truly need) will be given to you as well." (Mt 6:33)






SLE

Umm, yes this is an amen, and it is something that I deal with but I know God wants me single. It is a sad thing that almost all of the youth in America who are proclaimed christians think they have to be with someone. I know God doesn't want me to be celibate, but I know he wants me single for now, and I'm okay with that.

But it isn't just the church's fault. Some are pressured into thinking they need someone when in reality they don't. My mother isn't saved and doesn't understand anything I talk to her about and why I'm still single andwhy I'm not married with a grandchild for her. I mean all the time she's harpin on me to get married, but I just can't explain to her why I won't. So, yeah, but I totally agree with you!

Sis in Christ
Lnrobar