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    Girlfriend who doesnt believe in the Bible

    Hey fellow christians : )

    I'm 21 and my girlfriend is 18. We just got together. She's perfect for me in every way but we recently sat down and talked about everything. She believes in God and that Jesus died for our sins. But she says that she doesnt believe in the Bible. I asked her why she believed that Jesus died for us if she didnt believe in the Bible, cause those 2 kinda go together. But she didnt have any answer to that. She says she cant trust the people who wrote the Bible. And since she doesnt believe in the Bible she doesnt see life as I do. She just wants to have fun and enjoy life. She just believes in God and Jesus and that's it.

    She's really stubborn about it, and she gets a little angry it seems when we talk about it cause I guess I pretend to know it all. In this case I do hehe. I dont know what to say to her. This makes me really sad and I dont know what to do. Can you guys give me some advice? How should I approach this?

    Thank you so much : )

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    Brother, what I'll say you won't like, but since you seem like you care and you're asking, I must try to explain it to you.

    You can't be with someone who have different beliefs, it will always get in the way, one day you'll be happy and the next you'll be questioning yourself, while you're supposed to have peace at a relationship, that if it's from God.

    You may try to discuss it with her again, or pray for her, but don't fall for her, my last ex was agnostic and when I first met him I thought by time he would come around and believe, it never happened, and we had the worst break up, it took me a year to get over it.

    Maybe if I asked Christians before dating him, they would have told me what I'm telling you now, and I would have gotten upset too, but they would have been correct.

    Trust me, you'd be alot happier if you have a GF who believed in everything you believed, it would make you alot happier, and it will last.

    God bless.
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    I have thought about what you are saying but I'm not ready to go there quite yet. I know that christians shouldnt mix with non believers but I feel like she's not that far away. She just needs some guidance. She believes in God and Jesus. I wanna know how I can introduce the Bible to her : )

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    It is interesting how she can't trust the people who wrote the Bible...BUT she believes in God and Jesus. Because as far as I know and believe, the people who wrote the Bible weren't just writing anything. The Bible is God-inspired. You can't believe in God and Jesus and NOT the Bible. I wonder if someone told her something about the Bible she didn't like.

    Sure, the Bible has things in it that we don't like, but it is STILL God's Word.

    I don't know how to get her to believe in it...
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    Quote Originally Posted by ljoha View Post
    Hey fellow christians : )

    I'm 21 and my girlfriend is 18. We just got together. She's perfect for me in every way but we recently sat down and talked about everything. She believes in God and that Jesus died for our sins. But she says that she doesnt believe in the Bible. I asked her why she believed that Jesus died for us if she didnt believe in the Bible, cause those 2 kinda go together. But she didnt have any answer to that. She says she cant trust the people who wrote the Bible. And since she doesnt believe in the Bible she doesnt see life as I do. She just wants to have fun and enjoy life. She just believes in God and Jesus and that's it.

    She's really stubborn about it, and she gets a little angry it seems when we talk about it cause I guess I pretend to know it all. In this case I do hehe. I dont know what to say to her. This makes me really sad and I dont know what to do. Can you guys give me some advice? How should I approach this?

    Thank you so much : )

    Hi brother. Sounds like she's not sincerely a believer. It is not logical nor possible in the sincere sense of it - to be a believer in Jesus Christ / GOD and yet not believe in the validity and Divinity of the Bible. Honestly, that is very contradicting beyond belief in itself. That is why I say she is likely not a genuine believer. How is it possible for her to even know who GOD is and the character of Him when she refuses to believe in the Bible?

    Don't be deceived and don't waste your time with her. GOD makes it very clear not to be unequally yoked with an unbeliever. Too many label themselves as Christians, but do they walk with Jesus?

    2 Corinthians 6:14-15 (English Standard Version)

    14 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? 15 What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever?

    Clearly, she had no answer to your question. That pretty much says all you need to hear. She gets angry when you discuss GOD and the Bible? That says volumes as well. Which genuine believer who loves GOD would get angry like that?

    Pray for her, but don't be unequally yoked. I learned this the hard way about 5 years ago myself. Don't waste your time.

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    If you're going to stay together then she might swing over to the bible. Consider a movie maybe. I found Passion of Christ / In the Beginning quite interesting and they started me reading.

    It's so addictive but don't force it. Just talk about it and if she give's you the, 'It's a load of rubbish' Remember she needs to respect your beliefs as much as hers (mistake intended) :D

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    Quote Originally Posted by Property Of God View Post
    You can't be with someone who have different beliefs, it will always get in the way, one day you'll be happy and the next you'll be questioning yourself, while you're supposed to have peace at a relationship, that if it's from God.
    My testimony states otherwise. I was an non believer when I found my wife (a believer). Now I live for God and my heat is his. My wife get's every now and then and I love her so much... she's amazing. I thank God every day for my wife, new found faith, and life. Everything is amazing but I pray for Child. What blessing would be higher if the Lord would open my wife's womb. I wait... pray for me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SasyBoy View Post
    My testimony states otherwise. I was an non believer when I found my wife (a believer). Now I live for God and my heat is his. My wife get's every now and then and I love her so much... she's amazing. I thank God every day for my wife, new found faith, and life. Everything is amazing but I pray for Child. What blessing would be higher if the Lord would open my wife's womb. I wait... pray for me.
    Amen. My friend wasn't saved when she started dating her husband, who was saved. She accepted Christ, and they are now a happily married Christian couple with 5 children. Who knows what God will do with someone's heart.

    Now, if there is an absolute refusal to believe; if the unsaved person has staunchly closed the door, then there should be some hesitation on the part of the Christian about continuing with the relationship. Use a little wisdom.
    Faith is like a muscle; the more you use it, the more powerful it becomes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ljoha View Post
    Hey fellow christians : )

    I'm 21 and my girlfriend is 18. We just got together. She's perfect for me in every way but we recently sat down and talked about everything. She believes in God and that Jesus died for our sins. But she says that she doesnt believe in the Bible. I asked her why she believed that Jesus died for us if she didnt believe in the Bible, cause those 2 kinda go together. But she didnt have any answer to that. She says she cant trust the people who wrote the Bible. And since she doesnt believe in the Bible she doesnt see life as I do. She just wants to have fun and enjoy life. She just believes in God and Jesus and that's it.

    She's really stubborn about it, and she gets a little angry it seems when we talk about it cause I guess I pretend to know it all. In this case I do hehe. I dont know what to say to her. This makes me really sad and I dont know what to do. Can you guys give me some advice? How should I approach this?

    Thank you so much : )

    My friend :
    Rom 10:17 So then faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.

    Bring your friend to a good bible believing church and let the Word of God do it's work. Lot's of exposure and much prayer can move that mountain. BTW that unbelief is more than likely the product of hearing the foolish talk of unlearned folks and with lots of repetition it may seem credible to her. The antidote is to hear the truth.
    I will be praying for your friend.
    Psa 62:5 My soul, wait thou only upon God; for my expectation is from him.

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    Although it worked with some of you, it doesn't have to work every time, cause it's not what God wants us to do, it may have worked because God had mercy, people don't change people, God changes people, respect God's words, do not be unequally yoked, it is as simple as that.

    If you believe in God, you believe in Jesus, and you believe in His word, save yourself the heartache, the only thing you can do is pray for her, do not decide to be with her now.
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