Listen WE need to ASK JESUS CHRIST into our hearts as LORD and Master and Mean IT!
Then we need to ask HIM to help us over come and stop feeling away! It is srious and what we All really want to a personal relationship with HIM! We search our Whole lives for LOVE and He is Pure Perfect LOVE and the true vlove we are looking for!
We were made By Love to Love and be Loved !He alone is our purpse for life!
I knpow it gets confusing , Because we have natural desires and sex is an expression of Love! But it Only between a man and woman who truly love each other!
Lust does not fulfill us and we should and in mopst cases feel even worse after!
God would send a real love into our lives if we put HIM first!
satan puts all those bad thoughts in our minds to try to destory us ! God has A p[erfect will for each of us!
And allows some things though His permissive will! I once told Him ? I Never want to be in Your permissive will again!
devorce is in HIS permissive will! But His perfect will is Never to divorce! I understand how some Must divorce!
It is always at the beginning where we make our mistakes!
We need to ASK the Spirit of truth before doing anything that is long term!
GOD sees this and will warn us or tell us if we ask Him!
He loves us more than we Love ourselves!

1Co 15:3 For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures;
1Co 15:4 And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures:
Rom 10:9 That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.
Rom 10:10 For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.

Originally Posted by Chad

Matthew 5:31-32
31"You have heard that the law of Moses says, `A man can divorce his wife by merely giving her a letter of divorce.' 32But I say that a man who divorces his wife, unless she has been unfaithful, causes her to commit adultery. And anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

Anyone who divorces his or her spuse for any reason other than adultery and marries another commits adultery

Matthew 19:9
And I tell you this, a man who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery--unless his wife has been unfaithful

KJV -That's not what the Bible says, it for the cause of "fornication". I do not believe that word in the Bible or Word of God should be changed to make sense for some people.

Originally Posted by Chad

Looking on a woman lustfully is adultery; spiritual surgery is needed

Matthew 5:27-30
27"You have heard that the law of Moses says, `Do not commit adultery.' 28But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust in his eye has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29So if your eye--even if it is your good eye--causes you to lust, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. 30And if your hand--even if it is your stronger hand--causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.

It's all well and good to quote Bible verses but quoting Bible verses does little unless they are explained. Looking at a woman or a man lustfully is not adultery unless the man or woman is the spouse of someone else.

I am currently married to my second husband, but my heart is still with my first husband and I divorced my first husband because he was unfaithful. At the time he was 21 and I was 25, I was still in love with him after the divorce as I still am today even though I am currently married to my second husband. I know in my heart I married my second husband out of pressure from him and his family as well as loneliness and confusion from my previous marriage. And since I have been with my second husband i found out he doesnt take his relationship with Christ as serious as I do and theres always drama between his family and I. I truly want to be reconciled with my first husband but I read a scripture saying that remarrying your first husband after being married to a second is detestable in Gods eyes. Does this mean I can't remarry him?

I truly want to be reconciled with my first husband but I read a scripture saying that remarrying your first husband after being married to a second is detestable in Gods eyes. Does this mean I can't remarry him?

Only if you are a Jew because Gentiles converted to Christ are not under the law but under the spirit of grace and love.

If you are new testament believer you are supposed to be reconciled to the spouse of your youth.
1 Corinthians 7:11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.

If you want to be technical the current marriage is not valid.
You and your original spouse are still "one flesh".

This is my understanding and opinion so you should research yourself to be confident you are being led by the Holy Spirit.

When forgiveness is applied to any wrong doing it essentially never happened.Just as our sins are as far from us as the east is from the west.Adultery can be forgiven and grace and love be exalted over the marriage.
I like to think of the multiverse theory that science is looking at and I think it is in the scriptures.It's like once someone is forgiven we can just say that the incident happened in another universe but not this one.

In the Jewish law is was OK for a man to have more than one wife but not the other way around.
I think Christians dropped that double standard because it seems unfair but it could be argued that if not under the law a woman could have more than one husband.I'm not sure if we can have more than one "one flesh".
Peace

Originally Posted by PaladinGirl

It's all well and good to quote Bible verses but quoting Bible verses does little unless they are explained. Looking at a woman or a man lustfully is not adultery unless the man or woman is the spouse of someone else.

Or the person looking is married or engaged.

Originally Posted by riodeenglish

I am currently in the same boat as my girlfriend and i are planning on getting married but she is previously divorced. It was due to abuse and cheating to my understanding. Am I going to lose God because we are getting married?

David committed adultery. God forgave him.
Is this a license to sin? No, but God forgives.

This has helped me alot...

Originally Posted by Kingzkid28

I am currently married to my second husband, but my heart is still with my first husband and I divorced my first husband because he was unfaithful. At the time he was 21 and I was 25, I was still in love with him after the divorce as I still am today even though I am currently married to my second husband. I know in my heart I married my second husband out of pressure from him and his family as well as loneliness and confusion from my previous marriage. And since I have been with my second husband i found out he doesnt take his relationship with Christ as serious as I do and theres always drama between his family and I. I truly want to be reconciled with my first husband but I read a scripture saying that remarrying your first husband after being married to a second is detestable in Gods eyes. Does this mean I can't remarry him?

Deu 24:1 "When a man takes a wife and marries her, and it happens that she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some indecency in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out from his house,
Deu 24:2 and she leaves his house and goes and becomes another man's wife,
Deu 24:3 and if the latter husband turns against her and writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, or if the latter husband dies who took her to be his wife,
Deu 24:4 then her former husband who sent her away is not allowed to take her again to be his wife, since she has been defiled; for that is an abomination before the LORD, and you shall not bring sin on the land which the LORD your God gives you as an inheritance.

This could be the scripture you were thinking of.

Yes thats the scripture. So does that mean we cant remarry?