Forum for adult discussions?

[Chad]

Would you like to see a forum for adults only discussions? This will include deeper, more detailed discussions regarding sex, personal marriage matters and many ups / downs of adulthood (ie: mid life crisis). This can include serious counseling as well between members.

Do you have any suggestions as to what topics could be discussed in an adults only forum? I am thinking sex first because that is not something (in full details) that should or will be discussed on Talk Jesus forums you see currently.

Are you for or against this idea? Please share your thoughts.

[Jesuslovesu]

Chad While I think it is a good idea to have a section that is for adults.. My question is how would we keep the youngin's out? I stand behind you though in any changes that you bring to talk Jesus ty brother. Your sister in Christ Jlu

[Chad]

Basically the same way we moderate the mens and womens only forum is the same way we'll moderate the adults only forum. The description on the home page will make clear that its for "18 and over" and of course it will not contain anything TOO graphical (sexually) but still detailed enough when discussing important matters in adulthood. Sex is the obvious one while many other factors come into play.

Share your suggestions of any other adult related topics including marriage matters, personal job related issues, etc). As long as they do not fall into any other forum category, they will fall into the adults only category.

Kids

If the kids come into the forum more likely this is what I believe will happen.

a) too young to understand the sexual discussions and will leave for lack of understanding
b) young (under 18) but old enough to understand. They will still be able to learn Scripture being discussed regarding certainly "adult" matters
c) they will respect the rule and not enter the forum

[MavMin]

This type of thing needs to be available. I get lots of questions on such issues through my Ask The Expert site and I am not sure if it is best that many Christians are "ignorant" in this area or not. There are definitely sexual issues that need to be discussed before marriage but many women especially would not know how to discuss them or what to do if they come up after marriage.

[Ann]

I think it is a good idea. Issues regarding sex or other adult related issues can have a negative influence in the spiritual life of people. If it can be discussed between adults we may be able to get answers to many questions that I'm sure even people who have been married for many years may have. Resolving even the smallest problem is giving a step ahead, which we are all striving for.

And of course there is always room for improvement even if you have been married for 23 years like I have been.

I say give it a try and if it doesn't work out you can always stop it.

Thank you for all the work that you do and the commitment, we all benefit from it.

Blessings!

[Coconut]

If you create an adult forum, I suggest it be only accessable by registered members, not the general public, personally I think all counseling forums should require a pw.

[MavMin]

Good point, Coconut but then again there are so many forums that will give a 15 year old a checklist to see if she is ready for sex that are wide open to the public do we want to lock down a Scriptural one? Maybe we need one for R rated discussions and another for something that might require more description or topics that some might feel are more NC-17. On my Ask The Expert page I get asked some really interesting questions.

The last one was not "sexual" but dealt with sexuality since the lady was married in '04 and since then the preacher has come out as gay. She wanted to know if her marriage was still spiritually valid. Do let a discussion like that be open or closed?

[david_james]

Basically the same way we moderate the mens and womens only forum is the same way we'll moderate the adults only forum. The description on the home page will make clear that its for "18 and over".

There is no way to enforce this. People will go in anyways.

Kids

If the kids come into the forum more likely this is what I believe will happen.

a) too young to understand the sexual discussions and will leave for lack of understanding
b) young (under 18) but old enough to understand. They will still be able to learn Scripture being discussed regarding certainly "adult" matters
c) they will respect the rule and not enter the forum

a) The kids would ask parents and parents could get mad and sue
b) This age group are usually not mature enough.
c) don't be so sure

[Cody]

You could always have an agreement before the page saying that you must be 18 years or older to view the forum. If you put that, there couldn't be any law suits because of the warning? I'm thinking that is right, not sure though.

We can tell when someone goes into a thread because it leaves a history of all the users at the bottom of the page, so we can give warnings and infractions to under aged kids that go into the threads. I also believe this forum should be for users only.

[trulyblezzed]

I think it's a great idea because I'm young but I'm married so alot of my friends aren't able to give me marriage counseling. I'm all for this forum!

Proverbs 9:9 Instruct a wise man and he will be wiser still; teach a righteous man and he will add to his learning