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    Kicking the Dog

    When I was young, my wife and I went to a counselor once a month over a few years.

    He helped us to communicate. You see men and women don't speak the same language.

    It was then that I learned about kicking the dog. You see, when your wife or your boss bites your head

    off and you donít know why, you may be the dog. Being the dog is not fun, but it is a back handed

    complement. You ask how can it be a complement? You see, the person doing the kicking considers

    you a safe target, when they canít kick the person or thing that has caused most of the pain. If you

    can control your feelings while being kicked and ask questions about your wifeís feelings you may get

    to the source of the problem and be able to relieve some of her pain. This may work for your boss

    but be careful.

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    It sounds like maybe your wife might benefit by listening to Joyce Meyers. My husband at times used to do the same thing occasionally when work was not going to well, I had to let him know that he was preaching to the choir and that I was on his side. When He started in though on what's wrong with the government I told him that he should fire off an email to our Member of Parliament oddly enough it worked he said he felt ever so much better knowing the message was going to someone who might be able to do something about the problem. One of the Laws in our marriage is no hitting below the belt, that means if you get into a heated discussion you can't bring up mistakes the other person may have made, you must stick only to the subject and decide what is best for all concerned! God Bless!

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    Originally Posted by trisho View Post
    It sounds like maybe your wife might benefit by listening to Joyce Meyers. My husband at times used to do the same thing occasionally when work was not going to well, I had to let him know that he was preaching to the choir and that I was on his side. When He started in though on what's wrong with the government I told him that he should fire off an email to our Member of Parliament oddly enough it worked he said he felt ever so much better knowing the message was going to someone who might be able to do something about the problem. One of the Laws in our marriage is no hitting below the belt, that means if you get into a heated discussion you can't bring up mistakes the other person may have made, you must stick only to the subject and decide what is best for all concerned! God Bless!
    We are married for over 40 years and have learned to live together well. I thought since I paid so much money to learn what I learned, it would be nice to save some other Christians some

    money and pain. Writing a note to express feelings is a great idea. You don’t even have to send the note to feel better. If you do send the note, the person receiving the note will concentrate on

    your words and not be thinking about what they want to reply.
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