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    Dating outside own race

    I am just curious about this subject. Are there or are there not scriptures in the Bible that talk about I guess I should say marrying outside of one's own race? In the past, I have had my minister from the church I used to attend tell me that its a no-no but did not give any scriptures as to where I could find it. I now attend a different church in which I have attended for many years now. We got a new minister a few years back and can't remember which minister it was, but one of them told me that it was not a no-no to marry outside of your own race but it is a no-no to marry outsideof your own religion. He also did not specify any scriptures. My oldest brother has married a woman who is origionally from Macedonia. Therefore, she is from a different religious background as well as a different ethnic background, although she has the same skin color as we do (white). My father has no problem with this. However, he is very much against specifically whites and blacks marrying because he says that the Bible says not to marry outside of your race but says that he does not know where in the Bible it talks about this. I have dated black guys in the past and obviously this is where this subject originally arose. I personally have no preferences of dating white, black, Spanish, whatever. As long as they area good person, treats me good, has their faith in the Lord, it does not matter to me what race they are. However, if this is considered a sin in the Lord's eyes, then I may need to reevaluate that. Having not knowing yet and just basing it off of what I do know...I believe that the Lord does not see us as different races but just considers all of us as one race which is the human race and sees us all as his children. Therefore, I would rather go with the later minister in that its ok to marry outside of your own race but not your religion. Its just whether or not the two of you and the relationship can handle the challenges in which the general public throws at you as a multi-racial couple. Any feedback on this subject? Any scriptures on this subject?

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    Hello sister, I dont know any scriptures that would answer your question but I believe we are all God's children and as long as a person is honest and decent and you love them ots ok to marry.After all it will be God's will that you should meet.Here in Ireland there is a multi religious approach to marriage.In an increasingly secular country Catholism is the majority religion but there are many mixed marriages that work perfectly. I can see enormous difficulties in marrying into non Christian religions but I suppose that is down to an individuals beliefs. We trust in our Saviour to guide us in all and everything we do. God Bless.

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    Well Cheryl,
    I cannot think of a specific scripture that states you cannot marry outside you race. Interesting enough thought, Moss's married a woman from Ethiopia so I can only guess as to her skin colour considering she is a native from that country. Personally, I know only black skin coloured Ethiopian's.
    I have never had a problem dating outside my race, I can't imagine God looking down and dividing His people based on colour, to me that is absolutly ludicrus. I married outside my race and race has never been an issue between us.
    I would suggest following where God leads you and not man.
    One foot in front of the other every day with our Father holding tightly.

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    Thanks to all. I guess I just have this probalem with my father thinking as he does. My father and I definately grew up in two completely different times as I know all parent/child do but more so with us. I am 24 and my father is 70. My father and I are extremely close and he is the reason I am as close to the Lord as I am, he makes me see and appreciate everything that the Lord has done for me and for that I am grateful. I also respect my father very much and I hate to 'disrespect' him in any way, it upsets me when I have upset my father. I guess what I'm saying is I care a lot about what my father thinks of me. However, I have no idea who the Lord will bring me to marry but if it so happend to be a black guy, I only wonder what will come of my father and I's relationship. It would absolutely tear my world apart to maybe have to choose if that should ever come. So I was trying to better understand the issue. I believe I may be taking the 'Walk to Emmaus' here in a few weeks and maybe I could bring it up then. I am happy that you all have replied and makes me believe that I was correct in my original thinking.

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    Thought

    Which of you by taking thought can add one cubit unto his stature? Matthew 6:27

    Don't worry about it trust in God and do that which is right in the moment.


    May God continue to bless you sister.:boy_hug:

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    Christ is neither race or religion or class or colour.

    He is Love and life we are all one who follow him.

    The scripture for this is the entire new testament. :love:

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    there is nothing really wrong dating/marrying someone who came from different race, its everywhere specially in america( it is said that the marriage between white girls and asian men is dramatically increasing!) well i am not against black/white relationships, aslong as the couple doinf great and treat each other with respect, well i know your situation coz i have an american gf(whom i met online) and i am aware that many of my relatives dont want me to marry american girl( white or black) and they reason is that most american girls are not virgin no more, well aslong as u love the person and he loves you to, go on.

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    The question should not be a matter of race.

    It should however be : Is he or she a Christian? Will this person be a godly mate or not.

    Because the bible is clear about being unequally yoked.

    Your sister in Christ,
    AlabasterBox :girl:

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    I think sometimes people can wrongly use the bible, deliberately warping the meaning behind the words to substantiate their own prejudices.

    There is a lot of mention in the bible about black and white. White being associated with good and black being associated with bad.

    'Our princes were once glowing with health; they were as clean as snow and as elegant as jewels. But now their faces are blacker than soot.' Lamentations 4:7

    This type of passage could be misinterpreted by the prejudiced as referring to black people or white people. This misinterpretation is them warping the truth of the bible.

    'He catches those who think they are wise in their own cleverness, so that their cunning schemes are thwarted.' Job 5:13


    All Christians must be tolerant of each other and love one another no matter what the race or colour.

    'All Christians

    Finally, all of you should be of one mind, full of sympathy toward each other, loving one another with tender hearts and humble minds.' 1 Peter 8

    On the issue of mixed religion marriages I found this passage relating to the people of Israel in the Old Testament.

    'Ezras Prayer concerning Intermarriage

    But then the Jewish leaders came to me and said, "Many of the people of Israel, and even some of the priests and Levites, have not kept themselves separate from the other peoples living in the land. They have taken up the detestable practices of the Canaanites, Hittites, Perizzites, Jebusites, Ammonites, Moabites, Egyptians, and Amorites. For the men of Israel have married women from these people and have taken them as wives for their sons. So the holy race as become polluted by these mixed marriages.' Ezra 9:1-3

    I'm not sure that it is permissible to marry into other religions but as far as non believers go; from the New Testament, many Christians believe that one partner can sanctify the other and the key here is God wanting his children to live in peace.

    'If a man has a wife who is an unbeliever and she is willing to continue living with him, he must not leave her. And if a Christian woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he is willing to continue living with her, she must not leave him. For the Christian wife brings holiness to her marriage, and Christian husband brings holiness to his marriage....But if the husband or wife who isn't a Christian insists on leaving, let them go. In such cases the Christian husband or wife is not required to stay with them, for God wants his children to live in peace. You wives must remember that your husbands might be converted because of you. And you husbands must remember that your wives might be converted because of you.'

    Corinthians 7:12
    Last edited by Eve; 09-29-05 at 11:35 AM.

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    I don't know any scriptures, and i've never experienced dating out of my own race, but at my school, it's become a big deal, not with words, but with looks
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