God assures us, that when he forgives our sins, he forgets them aswell.
I'm amazed... He doesn't only forgive our dark bad sides when it comes out, but he wipes it completely off his mind.
Question: "Does the Bible instruct us to forgive and forget?"
Answer: The phrase "forgive and forget" is not found in the Bible. However, there are numerous scriptures commanding us to “forgive one another” (Matthew 6:14; Ephesians 4:32). A Christian who does not forgive can reap bitterness and the loss of eternal rewards (Hebrews 12:14-15; 2 John 1:8). Forgiveness is a decision of the will. Since God commands us to forgive, we must make a conscious choice to forgive. This frees the forgiving one from the past. The offender may not desire forgiveness and may not change (Matthew 5:44). Ideally the offender will seek reconciliation, but if not, the one wronged should still make known their decision to forgive.
In some senses, it is impossible to truly forget sins that have been committed against us. We cannot selectively "delete" events from our memory. The Bible states that God does not "remember" our wickedness (Hebrews 8:12). God is all-knowing. God knows that we have “sinned and fall short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23). However, having forgiven us, He treats us as if the sin had not occurred. If we belong to Him through faith in Christ, God does not hold our sins against us. In that sense we must "forgive and forget." If we forgive someone, we must act as if that sin had never occurred. We remember the sin, but we live as if we did not remember it. Ephesians 4:32 tells us, "Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you."
We say that we forgive someone and try to act like we do, but still once someone has sinned against us, we regard this person as cruel and wicked, like we have put this someone on our *Black list*.
If we do not forget the sins, and hold grudges to everyone who makes a mistake, we'll put all humanity on our black list, with our name on the top of the list.
Forgive and Forget
My friend, has anyone ever offended you? Has your spouse been unfaithful? Have your children disappointed you? Has someone cheated you in business? How we respond to the difficult experiences of life directly affects our spiritual well-being.
My father died when I was only ten years old. He left us quite a bit of property and some money. But his four brothers squandered everything we had. In three years my family was living in poverty and debt.
When I was older and really understood what they had done, I urged my mother to take revenge on them, to get a lawyer to take them to court and let them have it. The older I got, the more bitter I became.
But the Bible says, Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for Gods wrath, for it is written: It is mine to avenge, I will repay, says the Lord (Romans 12:19). He is the One who measures out justice. He wants to handle such judgment for us -- perhaps now, certainly ultimately.
My mother always quoted verses like Romans 12:19. She completely forgave my uncles for what they did. It took us 20 years to finish paying our debts. But she simply refused to become bitter. She forgot what they had done. Consequently, God gave her a freedom of spirit and opportunities to serve the Lord. I experienced that same freedom and fruitfulness later when I, too, forgave my uncles.
How deeply have you been hurt, my friend? Have you become bitter or unforgiving in your attitude?
I would like to remind you of the story of Joseph. The Bible gives us many reasons why Joseph could have been a very bitter man. His brothers hated him and sold him into slavery. His masters wife falsely accused him of a serious crime and had him thrown into an Egyptian prison. A government official promised to help him yet left him there to rot. Despite all these things, Joseph did not allow any root of bitterness to take hold in his life (Hebrews 12:15).
As many lives are spoiled by bitterness and a lack of forgiveness as by almost anything in the world. People go through physical and emotional breakdowns because they refuse to forgive others. The longer we carry a grudge, the heavier it becomes. We cannot afford to harbor bitterness in our soul.
The Bible says, Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you (Colossians 3:13).
I encourage you to read the story of Josephs life in Genesis 37-50. It is an exciting portion of Scripture! This passage teaches us many valuable lessons on the importance of forgiveness.
Setting Matters Right
For twenty years Josephs brothers carried the debilitating burden of guilt within their hearts for what they had done to their brother. Each time they found themselves in a predicament they said, Surely we are being punished because of our brother (Genesis 42:21). For twenty long years they were haunted by a skeleton they kept locked in a closet. Is there a skeleton hidden in your closet, my friend?
Rudyard Kipling said it well: Nothing is ever settled until it is settled right. We can point our finger and make up excuses, we can invent arguments and do anything else we want, but the key to the closet jingles in our pocket until we settle matters right.
How long have you kept a skeleton in your closet? Oh, you desperately keep that skeleton locked in some closet of your soul. You hope no one ever probes there. You hope no one ever finds a key and says, Ah! There it is!
I beg you to take that skeleton out of your closet. Confess your sin to God and to whomever you have offended. Get rid of it and experience Gods forgiveness.
Certain things may never be quite the same, but you can start walking with God again. With total freedom and complete joy you will be able to look at every man and woman in the eye. Why? Because youre clean. Forgiven. At peace with God and others.
The Bible says, Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed (James 5:16). Confession is the healing balm of our soul. Our confession, however, should only be as wide as the scope of our transgression.
Forgiveness. We need to seek it whenever we realize we have offended someone else. We also need to offer it whenever others hurt us.
Forgetting the Past
After entering into the experience of forgiveness, forgetfulness is vital. Joseph called his first-born son Manasseh, saying, It is because God has made me forget all my trouble and all my fathers household (Genesis 41:51). Joseph not only forgave his brother, but he forgot the evil deeds they had committed against him.
During the latter part of Josephs life, his father, Jacob, died. Josephs brothers again feared for their lives. They thought Joseph hadnt really forgiven them and would take revenge on them at last.
Joseph only wept when he realized their concern and said, You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good (Genesis 50:20). Joseph could see the sovereign, merciful hand of God at work in his life. He had completely forgiven his brothers and forgotten their offense years before, and longed for them to experience that forgiveness themselves.
Have you learned to forgive yourself for your past failures? Have you purposefully tried to forget them after confession and restitution took place?
Unless we learn how to forget past sins, we will always live in that past. Bitterness or guilt will continue to eat away at us like a cancer.
Paul had persecuted the Church as a zealous Pharisee. He had committed terrible sins. Yet afterwards as a Christian he said, Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus (Philippians 3:13-14). He didnt dwell on his past failures.
Joseph learned to forget about the offenses of others. Paul learned to forget his own sins after he had confessed them and made things right. We need to learn the same lesson of forgiveness today. All of us encounter potentially devastating experiences. How we respond to these situations determines our own well-being and the well-being of others.
Keeping Short Accounts
Forgive and be forgiven. And then forget it. This is the secret of spiritual health. Keep short accounts with God and men. Dont lock bitterness and guilt within the closet of your soul.
Allow the Holy Spirit to shine His divine spotlight in your heart. Let Him clean out every closet in your soul. Then claim Gods wonderful promise, If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9).
May you experience His cleansing and healing today!