Originally Posted by teraside

I am piggybacking off jculvers post, but God bless him for his knowledge.

Matthew 19:7-9

7"Why then," they asked, "did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?"

8Jesus replied, "Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. 9I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery."

Indeed. Notice the Pharisees were using Deuteronomy 24 to justify divorce for any reason, but the "defilement" happened because he divorced her with grounds less than adultery, so when she remarried she became an adulteress, and the man she married became an adulterer, and then if her ex-husband remarried he became an adulterer. This is likely why God hates divorce as in Malachi, it proliferates adultery all over the place. Also it is hilarious to see that the Pharisees act as if divorce was "commanded". Divorce in God's eyes should never happen. The cases where he allows it are technicalities he grants because we are fallen sinners, and he is merciful.

In Deuteronomy it is being shown that divorce will happen, and it is just setting up some guidelines for when and if it does. Divorce and remarriage is not the unforgivable sin. If someone messes up then we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ.

1 John 1:9 "if we may confess our sins, stedfast He is and righteous that He may forgive us the sins, and may cleanse us from every unrighteousness; "

It is easy for someone who might not have sinned in this way to sit in judgment on those who have, but God is their judge and if they confess their wrong then then it is in God's hands.

Well i thought it was clear to me but i guess im still in confusion. I guess it is hard for us if its not written in plain english for us to understand, maybe its just me, i dont know

Originally Posted by willr1976

Well i thought it was clear to me but i guess im still in confusion.

Your wife had biblical grounds for divorce based on matt 19:9, and she was free to remarry. No sin took place :) Your marriage is fine, DO NOT DIVORCE :)

so the real question to ponder is the words "put away" does that mean divorce?

Originally Posted by willr1976

so the real question to ponder is the words "put away" does that mean divorce?

Any Greek scholar will tell you apoluō (the word translated to English "put away") means divorce. It is even more certain when you examine the context: The pharisees JUST asked him about Deuteronomy 24 where it is clearly talking about a bill of divorce.

I would add just one thought to the GotQuestions? article: In Genesis, the Bible says of marriage, "What God has put together, let no man put asunder." Many people take that verse to mean that every marriage is "made in heaven." I don't believe that any more than I believe that the moon is made of green cheese.

SLE

I just wanted to say thanks again for your help. I dont know why i allowed the devil to stir this up in me, but i see it was just the devil trying to make me doubt, Ive realized that my marriage was truly Gods plan or He wouldnt have allowed it anyway. The devil is very sneaky and we have to be careful not to fall to his ways

So thanks and may God bless you both, your families and your loved ones also

I will never doubt again. satin almost had me in this situation but talking to you and some people that I know has helped me a lot.

Just remember I'm still learning in Christ, and im doing my best to follow Him.


I realized that God does not hold us accountable for what we dont know either. so please continue to pray for me and i will do the same for you both

Thanks teraside and jculver, may God continue to bless you both and use you for his works.......

As far as the divorced woman making an adulterer out of a man if he marries her,,,,, remember, in context Jesus is talking of an adulterous woman, the only reason for the first man to divorce her. If a woman was not the cause of the divorce, as in no adultery on her part, and the man leaves because he says he isn't happy, then the woman is free to marry and does not make another man an adulterer, because she did commit the adultery to warrant a divorce. Why would Jesus not permit a woman to remarry when she was not in favor of the divorce and did not commit adultery? I certainly do not want to be single all the rest of my life because my husband walked away. He divorced me with no adultery on my part. It was his decision to leave and never come back, even though no adultery was committed on my part, so I believe I could remarry, but in the Lord, and once again for keeps. I do not have to wait until he is dead, I know that we are not one by all the tearing apart and damage that was done to me emotionally. It was a through tearing apart and took years to recoever from. Something no one should have to live through. We are definitely not one. If the Lord presents me with someone who is His, then I would definitely consider new life as spouse. Living alone is too weird for me.

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Originally Posted by Trisha

He divorced me with no adultery on my part. It was his decision to leave and never come back, even though no adultery was committed on my part,

Mt 19:1-9 addresses this issue; Moses had written a clause into the Law that said a man could divorce his wife for ANY reason, even if she burned the bacon at breakfast.

SLE

Just saying in the context when Jesus said if a man marries a divorced woman he commits adultery, it was that the woman HE was talking about, again in context, was the woman divorced because she committed adultery. Moses was OT. Jesus told them about divorce and I know they divorced for any reason in OT, but Jesus told them only for adultery. I have read this and read this and in the light of the compassion of Christ, I really think he is referring to a woman who the man had a right to divorce in the first place, an adulterous. The woman who is innocent of adultery is free to marry and does not cause her new husband to commit adultery. She is not bound. God is not hard hearted.