hi.
I need someone to give me advices. ever since my bf dumped me I'm finding very hard to live I know I should be over this by now and move on. but what really hurt me is that the lord is blessing my ex . while I'm left here with a broken heart , I'm beginning to lose hope that the lord loves me but , it seem like the lord hates me , ok I know the lord loves me very much , but when your ex has lie and cheated to you it's so hard to live ........... I keep wondering how much more pain and misery am I going to get. please can someone help me cos I'm torn apart and I feel like I have nothing left .

God loves you as much as He loves your ex and any other human being on this earth. You need to forgive him, not for his sake, but for yours. The fact that you are still hurting because he cheated on you will not in any way whatsoever affect your ex, it will only eat YOU up. Forgive him and receive the utter and complete freedom that will come with that. Forgiving him does not mean that you have to be "buddy buddy" with him, as a matter of fact you don't ever have to speak to him ever again in your life; just make sure that you let go of the grudge that you have against him. Call him up or, text and tell him "I forgive you, we don't have to be friends and as a matter of fact I do not want to be your friend, but I forgive you from the bottom of my heart and have no grudges against you for what you did to me". Before you tell him that you have forgiven him; make sure of it. If you are finding it hard to forgive him on your own; talk to YHVH and ask Him to help you forgive your ex. Tell Him that you really want to forgive your ex, but you are finding it hard because of the level of hurt that you feel; I believe that if you sincerely tell Jehovah God that you need help forgiving your ex, He will give you the peace of mind that will enable you to forgive your ex. When you forgive your ex, I am positive that you will not feel so rotten about good things happening to him. Remember that our God is Jehovah Rapha, He does not only heal those with physical ailments, He heals all types of ailments, including a broken heart.

Yes, JehovahDaughter is right in what she wrote for Christ, you need to forgive him. Here are some scriptures to read to ..(.in case you are not, open your bible and start reading, Gods words are there for us for these trials, to be lifted up.) - Isaiah41:10 Fear not for I am with you;Be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you. Yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous hand. -2Corinthians4:8 We are hard pressed on every side, yet not crushed;we are perplexed but not in despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down but not destroyed. Also read- Psalm 40.

Job1:21 The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away; Blessed be the name of the Lord............. for Christ bless His name and praise Him even in our troubles....thank God now for for when your pain and misery are taken away cause He is going to help you and lift you up. Just cry out to Him and trust Him...... and read read read and pray pray pray.

You learn from your unusual experiences and wonder "what if" questions or situations would have kept your relationship in perfect shape. Questions like: "I wished I could turn back time and see what you are feeling and thinking that I might have done wrong that could have upset your feelings. I want to tell you that I will accept your comment about me at that moment and how I would have done the right action that would make you feel better in trusting me as I am a mature and honest Christian and how much I love you to the degree that no other person would destroy my trust in you. I hope you understand and take time to know me better because there is a spiritual war between Satan and our Lord Jesus who is constantly fighting the power of sin in my life. I hope Jesus will be your present and future Savior to keep you safe and faithful in Christ" .:*:.

You do not have to phone him up or write him to tell him that you forgive him. If he has asked you and you refused before, then you should do it. Otherwise forgive him in your heart and let it go. If you have trouble forgiving ask God to help you. He will do it. My heart was full of unforgiveness but God changed that and he can do that for you also. Sometimes the loving thing is to stay away and out of the other person's life if that is what they want. I know because I offered forgiveness and the person couldn't have cared less what I did. Just forgive and move on with your own life. God is not blessing people who sin intentionally. Christians and non-Christians get ahead in this life. Where non-Christians don't prosper is in their souls. Never mind what is happening in his life. You will only make yourself miserable comparing your life to his. Been there, done that. Everytime you think of it, force yourself to turn that thought off and focus on something else. God can help you with all of this. To put yourself in line for God's blessing you cannot be living a sinful life. The Bible tells us what the sins are.

Dear lady....'for christ'

Reading your post it appears to me that your ex is a frivolous fellow. You say he is in blessing........impossible. It is a show for onlookers.
You are well rid. His dirty washing will mount up....to haunt him in later life. Let him go.

Follow Jesus the Saviour.......and be blessed.

for Christ I pray for you
Almighty God, I come to you on this lady's behalf, Father close relationships as the one she had comes with many emotions, more than any other relationship at times, and I ask you to send your love, peace and comfort to her heart and release her of
these abundance of emotions as she has severed ties with this man, Father break the degree of soul ties between them so that
she can have the space in her heart to bring you back in, Father heal the hurt of this broken relationship which most of us know takes a toll on us especially when it comes to an end in Jesus name and I thank you that you have answered my request in Jesus name amen and amen.