hi all
as you might know . I have had my heart broken last week ( bf dump me and cheated on me)
ever since then I've bin trying my very best to hold on the lord, but the thing that is added to the hurt and pain , is that he's ( my ex bf) going to soul survivor on friday ( which is a christian festival) now that he got his gf I feel like he's the one getting bless and I'm the one getting cursed . I'm trying my best to look be on this pain , but I just can not , as every time I see him reminds me what he did to me and to know that he lie and cheated on me really has torn me apart. just the thought of him going to soul survivor and him worshiping the lord and him getting bless by the lord , just hurt me cos I've bin left with a broken heart which is now going to take weeks to get over it. I know I should not feel this way . but when you be lied to and cheated on , it just leave me feeling Betrayed and very depressed. please can someone help with this as I'm feel like I'm falling to peaces

Hi..I know how you feel I am in a similar situation. Its been three months since we broke up and I still feel hurt and he's all I think about. I think it is harder for me to get over him because before we pursued a relationship we were friends for years. We were together for only a couple of weeks but I just feel so hurt because I feel like I've lost everything with him..a great friend and a boyfriend. But what I'm trying to get at is during the whole couple weeks I always had a doubt in my head that he was going to leave me for his ex gf. And I was right he did. It hurt me because when he brokeup with me I asked if that was the reason and he said no I promise u its not. I really really dislike liars and he knows that so well. So it hurt to be lied to by him and it hurt to find out from Facebook that he was back with his ex gf. I called on God everyday all day for the past three months to help me move on and show me what he wants me to do. It felt like forever for me to feel a little better but God gave me strength. I am not as hurt and sad and down like used to be but I am still hurt. I know God will get me through this. He gave me the strenght to stop talking to him for a few weeks also. I asked God to give me the strength to stay away from him so I can let go thinking I wouldn't feel sad anymore. But he always came back in my life. Every time I would ask God to show me what he wants for him and I. And now recently i started responding to him again just texting and if he calls I answer. I am trying so hard to just be his friend again but its hard cause I miss him and he gives me mixed signs. I don't know what to do so I leave it all in gods hands. I know God will answer my prayers how he wants to cause we are all living the life he wants us to live. If he wants him and I to be friends or nothing at all ill accept it. I just really think God put him in my life for a reason and one day ill know why. Sorry this is so long but I just want to show you how God is helping me..I've read prayers for help with breakups and they say God will bless you in many ways. And he has! He's given me strength and 2 new jobs! He's helping me become a better person! He's also showing me he answers prayers! Just pray to God call on him for help. He knows what you want and wants to hear you ask him for it. Or just talk to him let him hear you. Its helped me a lot.

Originally Posted by for christ

hi all
as you might know . I have had my heart broken last week ( bf dump me and cheated on me)
ever since then I've bin trying my very best to hold on the lord, but the thing that is added to the hurt and pain , is that he's ( my ex bf) going to soul survivor on friday ( which is a christian festival) now that he got his gf I feel like he's the one getting bless and I'm the one getting cursed . I'm trying my best to look be on this pain , but I just can not , as every time I see him reminds me what he did to me and to know that he lie and cheated on me really has torn me apart. just the thought of him going to soul survivor and him worshiping the lord and him getting bless by the lord , just hurt me cos I've bin left with a broken heart which is now going to take weeks to get over it. I know I should not feel this way . but when you be lied to and cheated on , it just leave me feeling Betrayed and very depressed. please can someone help with this as I'm feel like I'm falling to peaces

If that is how this fellow has treated you...then he is better out of your way.

You just carry on as if you never met him. You go to the festival, and treat him like the stranger he has proved to be.

Well, you sound young. I'm getting old-er. It's from that perspective that I feel I need to give you a word of hope. There will come a day when you will look back and be thankful that it didn't work out. God has a plan for your life.

My spiritual mentor is an older lady that has had a lot of sickness in her life but, through whom God works very powerfully. She has three rules for happy living that I live by and will share with you. You wanna be happy write these down and live by them.

1). Mind your own business.
2). Trust God
3). Fear Not

You do these three things and you'll be happy. I believe that making good decisions is extremely important. Trust God and Fear Not. I know this is easy to say and hard to do but, try to let it go trusting that what God has in store for you is far greater than any plans you can make. I have been around for a half century and I know from experience that the plans God has for you will fit you to a tee. He created you with your specific personality. There is a future for you that will work for you. I have found that people usually screw up their lives when they try to get out in front of what God is doing. Then they often create a life of regret. Regret is a horrible burden.

Free will allows you to make decisions devoid of God's will. Heck, he can even clean up our messes. But, it wont be much fun.

This time will pass and you will find love again. Probably a few times before you find the person that is right for you.

The world teaches a lot of junk about romance, love, sex, etc.. It leads to suffering. God's way truly leads to life and fulfillment.

I know a lot of people my age that have been trying to make the world's way work. They are all still looking for something that works and are unfulfilled. Lesson there is that you can waste a lifetime looking to be fulfilled, emphasis on the word waste. So, my humble suggestion is to do your best to put it into perspective and move forward. There's something like 3 billion male humans on planet earth, literally. We're a dime a dozen.

Look for a decent guy. The flashier the riskier. Mr. right is often enough Mr. wrong. If they seem beautiful and perfect and they say all the right stuff, run, run for your life.

God is always good. You can trust that. Do I know how God works? Nope. Usually, when I think God is doing something I go that way and in a short period of time see the Holy Spirit pass me going the other way. I have to stop, turn around, and go another way. Just because something "feels" right to the human mind and body is not much of an indication that it is in-fact right. So, if you're asking God for something tonight ask for wisdom and discernment. Wisdom and discernment will bring more joy to your life than anything else.

Hope this helps.

Originally Posted by its_me

during the whole couple weeks I always had a doubt in my head that he was going to leave me for his ex gf. And I was right he did.

I believe that was God talking to you.

I don't know what to do so I leave it all in gods hands.

You need to LEAVE IT IN GOD'S HANDS for sure; easy to say, but hard to do. Stick with it.

Spirit Led Ed (SLE)

ForChrist, you seem to be depending on having a boy friend for your sense of self-worth. That's not the way God intended bf/gf or marriage relationships to be.

SLE