I have been married for 3 years, I am into a very though decision, about divorcing my wife or keep trying and waiting for my marriage to be restored.
I been living a very bad marriage since day one even before got married, but I still married her, we both go to church, I always thought this was a good thing because we would really live a Christian life together,
I have tried the most I can think to restore my marriage, I have spoke to my wife numerous times about her bad temper, trying to make her understand she is hurting me and making the marriage flunk, I have been constantly insulted, physically and mentally abused , I have prayed for her many many times. I have asked our pastors who married us to pray and help on our marriage.
We went to a psychology, and he diagnosed her with anger management. We went several times together, and she went other times alone until she quitted going,
She would lose control in seconds and physically and verbally attack me. Not to a point of going to hospital but wounds that leave scars. Like with nails. The main problem is that she would change to a very sweet, loving person, after some minutes of rage, extremely bad, abusive behavior.
She would get upset about things like, not picking immediately when she calls on phone, touching one of her belongings, hanging one of my clothes incorrectly, let the dirty come out when I was outside cleaning the patio ,small things like saying a different word that what she would have told, (for example not lying in something), she just find the smallest thing to let away the aggression, every error on my like passing a street that I should have turned , not calling a family member when I forgot a birthday, I know some people will get at some point mad, but here my wife is going from mad to extremely angry, and violent.
When I am studying the bible she says things like you think you are a saint, haha, I would rep0ly no I am not but I am trying here to be sanctified more every day, and you should do the same.
When we were married she also cheated me with other man, I never saw her but I was told she would go out and even someone saw her in a car kissing a guy.
She denied few times, than se kind of accepted it, this happened about 2 years ago,
I would love to me and my wife grow together in our Christian walk, and be waling on the same direction, I have humiliated myself, I have never loose my temper to physically hurt her at all, I usually just leave her for some hours , and pray .
I been trying to keep this marriage, but at this time I just want the best for us. I am a little afraid of a divorce, as I know is bad, and you can't get married again. I am 30 yd and this would be kind of hard to make my mind to be single ,this but I know that with the Lord I will never let me alone.
Yesterday I was talking on the phone and she was listening and trying to tell me what to say in my conversation, and since I couldnít focus I was pausing on the phone, and she got absolutely mad, at the point that she threw the Bible towards me (she would have through anything that she had nearby). This really made me very sad, Honestly I donít know what to do next, is very difficult, to face a situation, I have allow this events for almost 3 years, but I desperately need this to change, I have forgiven her, and still want to save the marriage, but if this would be a constant fight, and letting me being abused, I donít want to go on.
This is something I havenít shared with anyone on our church, other than my pastor, and my mother in law.
Please pray for this I have shared with all you. Pray for my wife, and for me to overcome and have the wiser decision.
Ps. Sorry my English is not very good , but I hope you can understand it.
God Bless you