I am in need of advice. I am at a place where I need to ask others to look at a situation and seek God before replying as I am not sure whether I am reacting with the flesh or in the spirit.

For most of past ten years I have been praying to God regarding the salvation of my husband and to help me out of this horrible domestic situation.

There were attempts on my life. He even threatened to kill me if I go to church. Pornography was his ruler. Alcohol was his medicine. Drugs was his freedom.

We since emmigrated to a new country and I have left him about 2 years ago. I have stayed truthful and faithful and never even attempted a relationship.

Throughout this time I have grown in faith in God and I have experienced God's love. The falsehood I was taught as I child and the verbal abuse that formed me from childhood and throughout my marriage was being removed from me.

Just more than 4 years ago I asked God whether I need to stay with my husband or leave him, I heard audibly that I need to stay. Within months we emmigrated and God has been moving in great ways that I never thought possible. God has provided for me in every means that the human mind can't comprehend.

Me leaving my husband was not a rushed thing, but something I and others prayed earnestly about.

Thing is, since I have left my husband, he has stopped drinking and gave his life to God. He is the man I fell in love with. Sure he still has his little irritating little habits that I do not think will ever die, but it is not something to be apart or leave a person.

I have never filed for divorce nor did he. He sees his kids every single day and he is at my house every day.

We get along ok, yet we both have very strong personalities. I know he is not as far as I am with my walk with God and as time pass he will learn more and surrender more.

Thing is I still care about him no matter how much hurt he has done to me. God is healing that what was taken away and replacing it with Himself.

The idea of him entering into a relationship with someone else hurts so much. I do not think he is in one, just the thought of it hurts.

Do I want him back into my life as a partner, I am not sure. Scared is more the reason. But also I do not want to walk a path where God is not leading me.

It feels if my spirit and heart is conflicting each other. Legalism are interfering me hearing what God wants me to do.

Hi Eagle.

I have never been married, but I can sense how deep this decision making troubles you. What I suggest is to fast and pray, then meditate on the scriptures. A good place to start would be 1 Corinthians 7. With what you've said it talks about a lot of it in that chapter. Also ask your husband to do the same. Since you two are still married it is only right to do so. Listen to God when he speaks. Some answers only come through prayer and fasting.

Another great way is to seek Christian Maritial Counseling. I say Christian because you want someone who believes in wha you believe in, but also some who seeks God for answers just like you do.

Proverbs 20:18 NIV "Plans are established by seeking advice;
so if you wage war, obtain guidance."

Be blessed and I pray that God's will be done in your life and the lives of your

Hi there

Thanks for the advice.

Since I posted this, I asked my husband where we stand in our relationship explaining where I stand.

He said too much has happened. (so no getting back together) I will treat him with the same respect that I always did. This is now basically a matter between him and God.

Devastated, for a while, but since hand it over to God and trust Him in this.

That is so sad to hear, but wherever the Spirit leads is exactly where you need to be. Turning things over to God was the best thing you could do to help you through this tough time.