there are 337 people online

Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 15
  1. #1
    Join Date
    Apr 2009
    Posts
    8
    Gender
    Male
    Post Likes

    Why do bad things constantly happen to me?

    I'm not really sure where to post this, so forgive me if I'm in the wrong place. Why is it that the more good I do and the more I obey God, the worse my life gets? I know it happens to everyone and that satan tries to discourage us, but in my case it's very severe, almost to the point where I feel like God is playing some kind of joke on me. I mean the more I try, the worse everything gets for me and if I'm involved in anything, it's garaunteed to fail. I suffer from severe depression and severe anxiety and panic attacks because of the nonstop barrage of bad things that happen to me. In the last 6 months I have lost all of my friends, failed at a business, and my fiancee left me for absolutely no reason and I am completely alone left to spend all of my time trapped inside of my messed up head with all of my bizarre thoughts and fears. It's like whenever God tells me to do something, I do it and then more bad things are piled on me and my depression and anxiety gets worse and worse. My prayers for God to heal me of these things has turned into pleading, my pleading has turned into begging, and it never gets better, only worse. It seems the more I pray, the worse I get. I've been dealing with this for 9 yearsand am at the point where it's hard to leave my house because I'm so depressed and am in constant panic mode. I can also feel this very dark, heavy, and evil vibe that radiates off of me. Why is God letting this happen to me and how can I make it go away?

  2. #2
    Join Date
    Jan 2006
    Location
    Yorkshire
    Age
    74
    Posts
    5,219
    Gender
    Male
    Post Likes
    Hi Brother Jeffness. welcomt to 'talkjesus' Sorry to read about your distress at this point in time.....and for a while you inform us.

    Sadness even depression is a fact of life for many people, but as a follower of Jesus....not for you.

    When things go wrong, as they sometimes will
    When the road you're taking seems all uphill
    When the funds are low, and the debts are high
    And you want to smile, but you have to sigh
    When care is pressing you down a bit,
    Rest if you must, ......but don't you quit

    Life is queer with its twists and turns
    As every one of us sometimes learns
    And many a failure turns about
    When he might have won .....had he stuck it out
    Don't give up though the pace seems slow
    You may succeed with another blow

    Success is failure turned inside out
    The silver tint of the clouds of doubt
    And you never can tell how close you are
    It may be near ......when it seems so far
    So stick to the fight when your'e hardest hit
    Its when things seem worse that you must not quit


    Start giving Jesus some praise....thank him for your salvation. Find some praising people...... The bible exhorts us to "Rejoice in the LOrd....and again I say Rejoice"

    In the O.T. the prophet told the people they had been sad......about the situations they faced for ......long enough.....He said to the people "The joy of the LOrd is your strength. He almost commanded them to REjoice

    "Rejoice in the LOrd always" whatever situation we are in....AS we begin to give Jesus praise........the enemy has to flee
    Jesus said "I am the WAY the TRUTH and the LIFE"......Without the WAY there is no GOING, without the TRUTH there is no KNOWING without the LIFE there is no LIVING....Thats what Jesus said.

  3. #3
    Join Date
    Nov 2007
    Location
    UK
    Posts
    162
    Gender
    Female
    Post Likes
    Originally Posted by jeffness View Post
    I'm not really sure where to post this, so forgive me if I'm in the wrong place. Why is it that the more good I do and the more I obey God, the worse my life gets? I know it happens to everyone and that satan tries to discourage us, but in my case it's very severe, almost to the point where I feel like God is playing some kind of joke on me. I mean the more I try, the worse everything gets for me and if I'm involved in anything, it's garaunteed to fail. I suffer from severe depression and severe anxiety and panic attacks because of the nonstop barrage of bad things that happen to me. In the last 6 months I have lost all of my friends, failed at a business, and my fiancee left me for absolutely no reason and I am completely alone left to spend all of my time trapped inside of my messed up head with all of my bizarre thoughts and fears. It's like whenever God tells me to do something, I do it and then more bad things are piled on me and my depression and anxiety gets worse and worse. My prayers for God to heal me of these things has turned into pleading, my pleading has turned into begging, and it never gets better, only worse. It seems the more I pray, the worse I get. I've been dealing with this for 9 yearsand am at the point where it's hard to leave my house because I'm so depressed and am in constant panic mode. I can also feel this very dark, heavy, and evil vibe that radiates off of me. Why is God letting this happen to me and how can I make it go away?
    hi there
    I've read your post and I know what kind of pain you must feel , cos I suffer from depression as well , if you need someone to talk to , then please feel free to PM and I will help you when you need it . take care and know that your in my prays .
    Lord I thouth you care about me I thought you loved me.oh why oh why have you left me in this darkness

  4. #4
    Join Date
    Dec 2009
    Posts
    3
    Gender
    Male
    Post Likes
    Hello Brother,

    I am very sad to hear about that.
    I remember from when I was a child, my Sunday School teacher was answering a question a friend of mine had asked. He said " Why do bad things happen to us, and good things happen to bad people?"
    His answer was definite. I remember it very clearly: "Perhaps on earth you may feel people are overpowering you with wealth and power, and they may not be the nicest of people. But remember this: God will always be with you. God has a plan for all of us."

    I hope this has helped you, and just remember, God is with you.

  5. #5
    Join Date
    Mar 2006
    Location
    Nova Scotia
    Age
    54
    Posts
    550
    Gender
    Female
    Post Likes
    Dear Jeffness,
    I have had difficult times, panic attacks, and depression but this does not mean God has abandoned me. (Even though it felt like it) He was always there. Just because we are Christians means nothing bad will happen to us. Sure Satan has no authority over us but he can still cause some fears, worries, etc. to come our way. But praise God, through Christ, Satan was defeated and God is in control. He, at times, uses or allows difficulties to refine us so that there is “more of Him and less of me” (John 3: 30) Beth Moore explains this way: "God allowed hardship and consequences to press against me from both sides until a decision had to be made and a part of me to die.”(Esther, pg 102)

    I am doing a study on Esther by Beth Moore. I came across the following paragraph today that she wrote that I thought I would share with you... “ ...he (Satan) deduces what we ourselves are most convinced what would raze us. ...Our distrust of God tattles on us, telling our enemy exactly how to get to us. Many of us habitually rehearses, ‘If _____ ever happens, then I’ll just _____’. Our fears become like long, bony index fingers pointing at our vulnerabilities. Once Satan sees what we believe would be the end of us, then threatens and torments us with it.
    Our natural human defence is to grovel before God and plead with Him not to let those things happen. Our conditional trust not only makes us an open target for enemy torment; it also positions us as negotiators and beggars before God instead of secure children who trust their lives to their faithful Father. Those times when our fears become reality we feel devastated. We think God is unfaithful, and Satan essentially gets want he wants – us to believe that life is over. Unless our belief system changes, for all practical earthly purposes, it is. After all, as a man thinks, so is he (Prov. 23:7) ..... The most critical breakthrough of faith you and I could ever experience is to let God bring us to a place where we trust Him – period. We don’t just trust Him to let us avoid what we fear most. We determine to trust Him no matter what, even if our worst nightmare befalls us. We have no greater victory and can render Satan no harsher blow.” (Esther, pg 107-108)

    My dear friend learn to trust and walk with Him. Remember always that above all else God remains the same and He is always good. “Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.... May God himself, the God of peace, sanctify you through and through. May your whole spirit, soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ. The one who calls you is faithful and he will do it.” (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18; 23 & 24)

    Best Wishes,
    Snowrose

    Reference ~ (Moore, Beth. Esther: it's tough being a women. Nasville, Tennesse: LifeWay Press, 2008.)
    Last edited by Snowrose; 12-31-09 at 10:25 AM.
    He must become greater; I must become less. - John3:30

  6. Dreamer liked this post
  7. #6
    Join Date
    Oct 2009
    Posts
    206
    Gender
    Female
    Post Likes
    Originally Posted by jeffness View Post
    I'm not really sure where to post this, so forgive me if I'm in the wrong place. Why is it that the more good I do and the more I obey God, the worse my life gets? I know it happens to everyone and that satan tries to discourage us, but in my case it's very severe, almost to the point where I feel like God is playing some kind of joke on me. I mean the more I try, the worse everything gets for me and if I'm involved in anything, it's garaunteed to fail. I suffer from severe depression and severe anxiety and panic attacks because of the nonstop barrage of bad things that happen to me. In the last 6 months I have lost all of my friends, failed at a business, and my fiancee left me for absolutely no reason and I am completely alone left to spend all of my time trapped inside of my messed up head with all of my bizarre thoughts and fears. It's like whenever God tells me to do something, I do it and then more bad things are piled on me and my depression and anxiety gets worse and worse. My prayers for God to heal me of these things has turned into pleading, my pleading has turned into begging, and it never gets better, only worse. It seems the more I pray, the worse I get. I've been dealing with this for 9 yearsand am at the point where it's hard to leave my house because I'm so depressed and am in constant panic mode. I can also feel this very dark, heavy, and evil vibe that radiates off of me. Why is God letting this happen to me and how can I make it go away?
    Did we go to school together? Trust me I know what you are talking about. Without giving details, I will cut to the quick.

    Praise Him. When you feel your worst scream "You are a wise and Mighty God!" Thank Him, when everything makes you want to quit and lay down and die, "Thank you Lord for the opportunity to feel this depression and sorrow and loneliness".

    It is the hardest thing to offer the sacrifice of praise when you feel the worst you ever do. Even when you feel as if you are in a dark windowless basement, when your words seem to bounce right back at you, praise the Lord. He inhabits the praises of His people. If you are not trying a medication for depression, go get some until the Lord heals you, but never stop praising Him, and thanking Him for everything good and bad.

    There were several men of God in the bible who suffered depression, the key is to be thankful, regardless.

  8. Dreamer liked this post
  9. #7
    Join Date
    Oct 2009
    Posts
    461
    Gender
    Male
    Post Likes
    dont give up. if he is telling you to do something then bad stuff happens or even if he isnt telling you and bad stuff happens remember this first if you give up the enemies camp has nothing to offer but weeping and nashing of teeth and secondly all things work for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose. He has a plan. i know it dont seem like it at times. i am kinda in the same situation. its not easy being a christian. but only a relationship with Him will profit. all else is vanity. it will not satisfy as a drink of the living waters will. i think you are being tested. i think you are being grown. and i think he wants you to look more to him and not the bad stuff in your life or maybe even at your life. im going on limited info on your post. but it sounds real similar to my experiences.

    love you man. dont quit. dont give up.

  10. Dreamer liked this post
  11. #8
    Join Date
    Dec 2009
    Location
    Cohoes, NY
    Age
    47
    Posts
    7
    Gender
    Female
    Post Likes
    hi. i know what you are going through. if you read the post i just made you will see what i mean (just look for my user name).

    i wish i had the answers. if you ever find the answers let me know.

    i am bipolar so i can definitely sympathize. i get so depressed it is awful. my "up moods" don't last and seems i am constantly so depressed. i am not on any meds, so that doesn't help.

    feel free to email me or pm me. it always helps to have a friend to talk to. even if i am do i still can come up with words of encouragement for a friend.

    Maybe between all of us we can come up with the answers seek.


  12. #9
    Join Date
    Dec 2007
    Location
    Tashkent,Uzbekistan
    Age
    27
    Posts
    10
    Gender
    Female
    Post Likes

    hello

    Originally Posted by jeffness View Post
    I'm not really sure where to post this, so forgive me if I'm in the wrong place. Why is it that the more good I do and the more I obey God, the worse my life gets? I know it happens to everyone and that satan tries to discourage us, but in my case it's very severe, almost to the point where I feel like God is playing some kind of joke on me. I mean the more I try, the worse everything gets for me and if I'm involved in anything, it's garaunteed to fail. I suffer from severe depression and severe anxiety and panic attacks because of the nonstop barrage of bad things that happen to me. In the last 6 months I have lost all of my friends, failed at a business, and my fiancee left me for absolutely no reason and I am completely alone left to spend all of my time trapped inside of my messed up head with all of my bizarre thoughts and fears. It's like whenever God tells me to do something, I do it and then more bad things are piled on me and my depression and anxiety gets worse and worse. My prayers for God to heal me of these things has turned into pleading, my pleading has turned into begging, and it never gets better, only worse. It seems the more I pray, the worse I get. I've been dealing with this for 9 yearsand am at the point where it's hard to leave my house because I'm so depressed and am in constant panic mode. I can also feel this very dark, heavy, and evil vibe that radiates off of me. Why is God letting this happen to me and how can I make it go away?
    HAve some medication like antidepressants, if your having this for a long time. If you have an opportunity you should travel somewhere, say Asia, Africa with certain organizations like compassion or whatever, see life of people who dont have credit cards, should help.

  13. #10
    Join Date
    Oct 2007
    Location
    Delaware
    Age
    58
    Posts
    1,384
    Gender
    Male
    Post Likes

    Praise Him

    Veracity and Stephen have it right! Praise Him, Praise Him, and Praise Him some more! Not half-heartily, with all your heart. Praise Him, till the dogs start praising Him along with you! Praise Him till your neighbors start thinking "he's gone over edge"! Then Praise Him some more! Praise Him with tears running down your face! Praise Him on your knees, Praise Him all the time! You are loved Jeffness! Canít you tell? Look at the posts! Your Brothers and Sisters in Christ Love you and want to help! Youíre not alone and will never be! Because you know the Lord Jesus Christ as your Savior!!!!!
    Some verses I pray that can help! Love you Bro <><
    He's with you. Don't be discouraged!
    Joshua 1:9
    He's greater then you adversary!
    1 John 4:4
    He'll never leave you! Don't fear!
    Deuteronomy 31:6
    He cares for you! Don't be anxious!
    1 Peter 5:6, 7
    Remember! This assurance!
    Romans 8:38, 39

Topic Information

Users Browsing this Thread

There are currently 1 users browsing this thread. (0 members and 1 guests)

Similar Threads

  1. Replies: 34
    Last Post: 09-15-13, 01:37 PM
  2. Why Bad Things Happen To Good People
    By Eric E Stahl in forum Bible Study
    Replies: 3
    Last Post: 03-03-12, 06:11 PM
  3. When bad things happen..
    By Mirjam in forum Counseling
    Replies: 4
    Last Post: 05-09-11, 09:51 PM
  4. Does the devil make things happen?
    By confusedgirl1 in forum Bible Study
    Replies: 13
    Last Post: 01-14-11, 12:40 PM
  5. Replies: 1
    Last Post: 09-15-10, 12:06 PM

Participants: 14

About us

Welcome to Talk Jesus Forums! If this is your first visit, be sure to check out the FAQ. You will need to register before you can post. Our Purpose: spread the Good News to the ends of the Earth [Mark 16:15]. We're also here to edify the church [Ephesians 4:11-12]. To start viewing messages, select the forum that you want to visit from the selection below. We love you and glad you are here!

 

ask & you shall receive...

Please feel comfortable and ask your questions freely in the appropriate forum. As a community, we will help you find the answers about Jesus / GOD, Bible, general life questions and so forth. We're here to support you and each other.

 

faq forum etiquette surprise me!

 

the evidence topical studies
let's socialize
our facebook friends