That was an excellent article from gotquestions, it certainly has made things a lot more clearer to me.
Now going back to my other post, there are a lot more false teachers out in this world then ones thinks, which hurts me a lot, as these people really do think they are saved because of what they have been taught and don't know any better and have taken the ministers word for it.
Now the reason I have said this, because this has been bought close to home to me. My husband claimed to be Christian all the 13 years of us being married. But my husband was only truly saved 4 months ago, now that's shocking isn't it. This was certainly a real shock to him, because he really thought he had been saved all those years ago. The church that he went too, those many years ago only told him, that he only needed to accept Jesus as his savior and he was saved, and he would be going to eternity. He was never told about having babtism in the Holy Spirit. He honestly thought he was saved and that was the end of it. Its the Holy Spirit which saves us from sin. This is still taught today in some churches.
Now during the years of our marriage, we have had several discussions about certain cultures which he hated and I mean hated, and he could not forgive them for doing certain things etc. Also he said, even with his own children he would not forgive them, if they had or would do certain things that were wrong in life, well I just didn't understand how one who claimed to be a Christian could even think like that and I wasn't even saved myself at those times when we had those discussions.
Cutting a long story short as there are other personal issues involved, but early this year, me and my husband split up for about 2 months, he pleaded to have me back and I returned back to South Africa and I made it perfectly clear and told him I was following Christ and it was up to him. When I got back, I also explained to him about the Holy spirit and for what you have read above, he didn't know about being born in spirit. Well every day, my husband and I were in the
bible, with him getting to know God and me getting to know God. In June this year, my husband was born in spirit. My husband is now a new person and see's all people in a totally different light, there is no hatred towards anyone or any culture now and he is as eager as I am to spread the word to the unsaved. He has also now joined a cell group and commited himself to being a disciple for Jesus.
Now the reason, I put this up here, if I had not been born in spirit, I probably would have gone off and had an affair, my mind wanted one thing but my heart was saying something completely different. That is the bottom line to it. God helped me and stopped me, God worked through me to help my husband, I could have done something completely wrong and destroyed my marriage. God told me to get back to South Africa and sort it out. It was extremely hard for me to get back on that plane, because I didn't want to go back, but God was with me all the way, comforted me and guided me all through this. I could have not have got through this without Him, its that simple.
My husband and I, are still together and we are working out a marriage problems, we have a long way to go yet. God is with us and God comes first and we both know that.