
Originally Posted by
cranquar
Pappa, concerning discernment and judgment.
I too agree that this poses what I consider a conundrum that too many women I have known, have fallen victim to. For as they seek not to judge, they forgive acts of domestic violence, weaken their faith in the love of God has for them, and remain victims of violence in their own homes.
I too have come up against those who have sought to do me harm in some way or another. I did not want to judge them as the teaching of the scriptures says, and then leave them based on that judgment; or better still remain in a fearful state of being. Then ne day I read II Timothy 3: 1-5:
"This know also, that in the last days perilous time shall come....For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, un-thankful, unholy,...Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,...Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;...Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: FROM SUCH TURN AWAY!" (Continue reading...3:8 says "Now as Jannes and Jambres withstood Moses, so do these also resist the truth: men of corrupt minds, reprobate concerning the faith.")
Therefore I did not need to judge the person, but follow the scriptures instructions, stay away from the person, (even in thought). When the person came to mind, if I sensed fear, in my mind I would say "Stay away from me." If the person otherwise, came to mind I was free to pray for them to come to God.
I have found the scriptures most helpful in guiding me through such matters, at work, home, and community. I do not have to determine whether a person is good or bad deserving punishment etc. If I discern that their negative acts reflect those described in the scripture, I can act according to the instructions written in the Word of God. If someone seeks to do me harm, I say and believe: "My enemies, shall be confounded and ashamed" (Psalms 35:4); No weapons formed against me shall prosper. Every tongue that rises against me in judgment shall be condemned." (Isaiah 54:17). Then I try to rely on this: "I will give you a mouth and wisdom that your adversaries are not able to gainsay or resist. (Luke 21:15).
I say all this to emphasize that though we may not be given to consistently judge and condemn the sins of each person (thus lending our minds to be subdued with negativity); God does not intend for us, or leave us to be potential victims of those who seek to do us harm.
Bottom line, I don't have to trouble my mind in judging the goodness or evilness of a person. The scriptures have judged them. It is my job to act appropriately as instructed by the Word of God, be it to turn away from them, or pray for them.
With much love, and hope;
CQ