Hi SilentHero,I understand how you feel..but you do not need to "find"someone..realize that God does already have him picked out for you and you need to let him bring you together when it is His Timing!!If you search for someone it will not work and you may give into the wrong person God has for you.Ill share with you..after my husband died I told the Lord..I didnt need anyone as he is my husband and he is the one who fulfills me..but I also said I didnt want to grow old alone and Im very romantic and I want a husband to do his work and will with!!Well as plan as day he said to me "When you see him you will know him!!Well the next nt went to church and a woman I hadnt seen in a month called me over and said she had a dream(vision) of my next spirit filled hubby..and we are going to do Gods work together!!And he loved me dearly and we are gonna be so happy!!And she also explained what he looked like tall.dark and drop dead handsome!!Now..the Lord really knew me well,ha cause I do like taller dark men as thats the kind I always went for as I am very fair skinned(Irish).So thru the yrs I dated 2 men and the first one the Lord told me not to see him anymore and he wound up falling back into old life of drugs and died a year and half later!!Then tried dating again and the Lord told me to guard my heart!!And so soon after that the Lord showed me in the spirit I was "cheating" on the one he had for me!!So since then no looking!!And recently 3 poeple have confirmed in the spirit that my hubby is on his way!!Within this year,even months away I expect to meet him.So,its always Gods ways and Gods timing!!And I know I will know him as soon as I see him cause its by the spirit that we will know eachother.God is always in control if we obey!!And even if we dont..but you want him to bring that special one to you as he knows what you like,and it will be for His Glory!!Hope this helps!!GBU,Love,Sister.