Greetings again, Iloverock24,

I have been praying for a few days now.... seeking the Lord and I hope you have been, too.

As I read over your post again and again... something 'struck me'..... have a look yourself.....

over and over again, you tell about what you mother does and has done.... which I realise is what you wrote for... or why you wrote, that is, because of the way you see your mother's ways to be.... and you might be very right about this. It's not uncommon for mothers to be what appears to be overbearing, particularly if one is child to that mother as you are.

However, Iloverock24, I would like to share with you something....

what has Jesus done for you, and what is Jesus doing for you now?

One thing is certain... if we constantly look at the things we don't like, we will only see more of such things.....

BUT, if we turn our eyes upon Jesus..... well, we begin to see more of Him in our life...

and I want to encourage you to do this. Start your day in prayer... in worship of the Lord Jesus Christ. If you would like any help in getting started, please ask. Consider some of the blessings you DO have in your life.
I know one very special blessing and it near brings tears to my eyes to consider....

this blessing is your mother.

Please take some time to think a bit about the many children who do not have a mother.... oh, let your heart get broken for them, my sister.... yes... think deeply about these precious souls who do not have a mother..... and now look again to Jesus and thank Him that you DO have a mother.... and a mother who loves you.

From her point of veiw, she would be somewhat concerned for you... this is evident from what you write..... why else would she bother giving you such a hard time? Your mother might not be perfect, in fact I doubt she is... but, she is perfectly your mother. Does she have a functioning body.... no missing limbs etc, not blind, not impaired in some physical way or another.....? This too you can be very thankful and grateful for.

Why am I saying these things? Because it is vital for you to begin each day, and continue throughout the day giving thanks to the Lord for what and who He has given to you. Do you realise that your rerlationship with your mother is uniquely yours and hers.... a very, very special and precious relationship that only you two have..... there is only one you and only one mother of yours, Iloverock24.

Now go on to your own health..... can you give thanks for it?

Now, are there others who you love? And where you live.. maybe it's not perfect, but I would say you'd be keen to live there and return there if you had to spend time in some other areas or countries.

Iloverock24, this applies to everyone, not just you, so please don't think I am singling you out... but rather, please listen to this advice.

It may sound little useless, but if you would try it for a few weeks, you will probably find that your feelings and even your relationship will be healed and restored to the glory of God in Christ Jesus the Lord....in fact, if you rerally got down to deep appreciation for all the Lord has given you, your life would change immediately.

Iloverock24. it is not so much what comes our way from life or others in our life, that counts, but how we react to it.

If someone close to me says things that get up my nose... well, I can grumble, complain, get angry and upset... but what does that achieve but to get me in a bad mood? BUT, if I, in God's grace and by His love, continue to be thankful to Him for the offending person, I remain in His joy and His joy remains in me...... AND, the problem soon vanishes, as I have not added fuel to the fire.

Does all this make sense?

We always have a cross to bear.

There is a story about a bloke who was not happy with his cross...

didn't like many aspects of it, so, after grumbling heaps, asked if he could swap it. He was taken to an enormous storeroom... so huge as to be almost scary... one could get lost in it if not for it being managed by the angels of God.... and after looking around, saw a few he liked the look of.... saying, "I will try this one", pointing at a rather smooth glossy cross.
He picked it up an carried it for a while.. thinking this is ok.... but soon realised it was out of balance and his back began aching sharply. So he tried another and another... all proving uncomfortable and some giving him nasty splinters... some he couldn't even pick up...... after some time, he came a-cross one that seemed 'just right' and after finding it was really quite suited to him, he said, "I'll take this one!".
"Yes!, this one is suited to me... at last I found a cross I can be happy to carry... I think I could carry this one all day!!!"

The angel who was helping him gently said, "my friend, this is the one you came here with... and yes, it is perfectly suited to you, crafted by your loving Father... just for you, because He knows exactly the cross you need to carry.... and you have chosen it now because it is yours".

Sister Iloverock24,

may you begin to see the wonderful opportunity to praise the Lord in all His care for you, in all He has provided for you in His love and Sacrifice, and may each day become more and more a time of rejoicing and drawing near to Jesus..... and finding His peace in your life.

Bless you ....><>

Br. Bear

ps... may I also suggest that you begin saying thank you to your mother when she tells you off or appears to be manipulating.... I think you will be surprised as you do .

pps... I know this might seem ridiculous, all this advice, but although it appears to not tackle your mother's ways, as you become more blessed in giving thanks, your life will bless your mother too. There are many ways to get to the safe house.... but only one door in.

Verily, verily, I say unto you, He that entereth not by the door into the sheepfold, but climbeth up some other way, the same is a thief and a robber.

Then said Jesus unto them again, Verily, verily, I say unto you, I am the door of the sheep. ...John 10:1 & 7

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Matthew 6:33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.

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Therefore being justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ:
By whom also we have access by faith into this grace wherein we stand, and rejoice in hope of the glory of God.

And not only so, but we glory in tribulations also:

knowing that tribulation worketh patience;

And patience, experience;

and experience, hope:

And hope maketh not ashamed; because the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost which is given unto us.

Romans 5:1-5