Br Bear has the best approach.
There is no scripture I could find that links directly up with your situation.

However, there are the events recorded in Ruth 1:1-9; where the homes of the respective women's mothers were considered by Naomi to be their only recourse following the death of their husbands. I will not attempt any further interpretation - you read it and see where it leaves you.

As a footnote, one thing I've learned on sites as brutally honest as this one, is that the answer to your question may not be what you want it to be.
All I will venture here is that, myself being a parent, I want the best for my kids. Whether or not that means forcing them into some things and away from others is, I guess, a parent's prerogative.
Also consider that each parent's way of dealing with a situation may be influenced not only by their own convictions but by their circumstances.

PS: What is SSI? (I am from South Africa, these things are not familiar to me).